Is my Professor into me?
Ok, I think my Professor is into me. Let me mention that my Professor is a male in his 60s. Every morning I walk into class, he is usually sitting down and talking to some girl in class. I notice that he will just stare at me until I sit down. When I sit down, he will walk up to me and start talking to me asking me how my days has been, etc. When he talks, he sounds like a gay man talking (you know what I mean). But he tells the class that he used to be married and is straight during one of our lectures. During lectures when I'm spacing out, I will catch him looking at me and when I turn my head and look at him, he looks somewhere else. I will continue to look at him it seems like he is trying hard not to stare but when he does stare, he quickly looks away. I thought nothing of it so here I am spacing out again. I'll look up catching him stare at me again. After class, ill go sit on the bench outside the room and sometimes he will come and talk to me but most of the time, he will just walk by me staring at the ground. What do you guys think? This happened on numerous occasions.
FYI, he told the class he enjoys watching glee and likes Avon, not like that really matters. And he gave me his personal number...
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Hi Johnathan:
The fact that yr professor gave u his personal makes it crystal clear:
Yes, yr professor is most definitely into u. Period. End of discussion.
Well, ok: let's re-open discussion. I've had some experience in this area. I'd like to give u the benefit of it.
First off, do not worry that u are in danger frm him. It's highly unlikely that he'll 'try' anything. Men such as yr professor go into teaching because they enjoy being arnd young people.
This doesn't mean they want to have sex w/their students. Lechers and pedophiles are generally quickly discovered and sent packing. Teenagers tell.
No, people like professor are attracted to the beauty of youth. Both sexes. Professor definitely is interested in stunning young men. U are clearly one.
Now don't freak, ok? Prof has fallen in love w/u. His continual staring at u is the evidence.
What does this mean for u? A truly good thing. He wants to help u in any way he can.
Certainly in yr class work. He will be overjoyed if u come to him for help. And u should go to him. He's in his 60's, so he has a wealth of knowledge. Avail yrself of it!
U have an academic gold mine in him. And what does he want in return? To gaze upon u, hopefully from a couple of feet away.
Now, I can tell you're getting a tad squeamish. Don't be. Think of him as a valuable and knowledgable friend. He's nearing retirement. U may be his last...One.
Think ahead to times when u'll need a recommendation. Y can imagine prof's!
I wld use that personal number. Yes! And if he says 'Come over', go!
When u get there, this is what I'd do. Lay down a marker. U've settled in, he's given u something to drink. U've had some small talk. Then:
"Prof, I really appreciate your having me over. And I love yr class. It's my favorite. When u were talking about [cite something u were genuinely interested in] i have to admit i was spellbound.
Him: Oh, that's wonderful blah blah blah. [let him talk out whatever he needs to say. U need totally 'clear air here]
[clear air]
Prof I want to say something important--[forceful now, but civil] -I would like very much to be friendsi. I have no interest in anything else. None. Period.
At this pt he'll probably fall all over himself, "Oh, no, no blah, balh blah." He will not be offended, I guarantee it. U can help him thru his embarrassment: "Oh, I'm so glad u understand! I knew u wld."
Similarly, if he touches u--an arm arnd yr shoulder, whatever--again lay down a marker. Just stop and say in a definite but civil tone. "Please, I do not like being touched."
Well, this has gotten way longer than I meant
Don't feel u are using him. Every time he looks at u he is getting harmless pleasure. So he's happy to give in return. He loves to give in return.
If fellow students start to notice (probably) and giving u sht, jus say, "There's nothing I can do about it.
No one can give orders to love.
Cameron
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Yes. Have sex with him and he'll probably give you a PhD for free.