Do i tell his parents?
Me and this guy were seeing each other for awhile, i broke it off.
He started hunting me down again a few months after that. We always had an incredible lust for each other and wonderful sex! so i caught up with him.
I got pregnant. My beautiful baby girl is now 3months old and he was not there for my pregnancy, birth or has never seen her. He popped up when i was 6mnths pregnant telling me he cant be there for her as he didnt want to f*** her head up! pathetic exscuse!! He is 32 and me 22.
I have not bothered to make contact with him, nor has he bothered with me. But his family and friends have no idea she exists. What the hell do i do? I have never met his family, but know how to get in contact with them.
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He is just as responsible for that child as you are. He needs to be there and be a father. If you are concerned of his parenting abilities like his excuse is...just be there when he is to monitor. He needs to step up, and if you want his parents to be in your childs life, tell them. They may not be happy at first, or maybe they will be but how would you feel if you had a grandchild out there somewhere and never got the chance to know? They deserve to know and make that decision on their own what role they want to have in your daughters life. I only met one of my grandparents, three passed away before I was born. Give your daughter the chance at least to know hers while they are still here. As for his friends? Well who cares, what are they to you? I say telling his friends are his choice, unless they just happen to see you out with her or something. But for his parents, well that's a part of them...it's their family. They have the right to at least know, but as long as you are POSITIVE that it is his before you get them involved.
You should bring the baby to his family and show her to them. Tell them although, He doesn't want to be a father to the child and you're okay with that(if you are) but you want them to know of her existence and maybe even include them in her family circle.
I'm not really grateful that you two conceived a child because of great sex, that's not a great reason and the problem is , now you're in the stand point where he can't father it because "he doesn't want to"
If you want him to be a part of the family, Tell him. If he doesn't want to still, go to the parents and talk to them calmly about the situation.
Tell the courts the situation, and they'll track him down, and you can get child support from him. They'll garnish his wages if they have to. They'll make him be there for her. Financially anyway.
Telling the parents won't do any good. They'll hide his secret. They won't give him away.
i think you should tell the parents i mean hello their the grandparents of your baby and what happened if your parents don't know they have have the rights too as your parents does now. and so ya you should tell them and maybe have a better life with his family and not with him. think of your baby and who is best in her life than without nobody, i don't know if i make sense but hope you make the right choice.