why is my mum so paranoid?
I'm asking this question because I'm sincerely worried about my mum. I think she might have some mental illness, and I was wondering what y'all think could be wrong with her. Here are some of the things she does that make me worry (sorry if it's kinda long)=
- She thinks everyone in the world hates her. Legitimately. She says it all the time and also frequently says she's gonna get a gun and shoot everyone in the world
- Her mum sent her a birthday card once and in it she wrote 'I haven't seen you for awhile'. From that line my mum somehow got the idea that her mum was angry at her, and hasn't spoken to her or any of her brothers and sister since then (that was about 7 years ago) and frequently about how she thinks they all hate her, and even how they're plotting to kill her.
- She won't go in the back yard, because she thinks the neighbors hate her and for some reason there gonna be waiting at their windows for her to come out so they can stare at her think bad things about her.
-Whenever me, my dad or my sister have friends over she hides herself in her room. This is because she thinks all our friends hate her because we've apparently told them all stories about how much of a horrible person she is.
-whenever we get into arguments she's allowed to yell at me but I'm never allowed to yell at her because she thinks the neighbors will over hear and think bad things about her.
-Whenever we get take away for dinner, we have to hide it in a bag before we bring it into the house and we're not allowed to mention what we're eating in case someone sees or over hears and thinks she's a bad mother for not cooking dinner.
- She also always thinks she's sick and will have frequent panic attacks because she thinks she's having a heart attack or a stroke or she has a blood clot or something. She's actually called the ambulance numerous times only to discover there's nothing wrong with her.
That's all I can think of right now off the top of my head. So what do y'all think is wrong with her and how can I help? Whenever I mention that something might be wrong she goes off her head at me and starts telling me that I'm the one with problems (That's another thing, she thinks all her children have a mental illness and has a massive list of the problems that she thinks we have. Whenever we do something slightly strange she's like 'oh, you must have OCD' or something).
By the way, she's been like this all my life (I'm 17).
Thank you so much in advance!
Update:I live in Australia dimwit. It's spelt mum in Australia. Look who's the idiot now.
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From what you have described, it does seem your mother has some mental health issues and I can understand how badly this is affecting your family. Speak with your father and express your concerns. She needs qualified medical help and your father should insist she get it.
Call 1800 273 8255. She really needs help. She may have CDC. This another for suicide thoughts. They can answer all your questions. She has had something tragic happen to her. And she has kept it bottled up all these years. Not letting go. She is afraid someone will find out. And they'll look down on her. I say it wasn't her fault. But (she) thinks so. It sounds pretty bad. She will not be able to hide it much longer. And when it comes out. She will think she is dying. I say you have never seen her cry. Ever.... It must have gotten bad. Or you wouldn't be asking for help......
she def has something wrong with her.. it's not going away.. i'm sure she's been like that for years.. she needs to get her head checked out or see a shrink.. get some help.. it can be hard because a lot of people don't want help..and are in a constant stage of denial...anyone with common sense can see there is something wrong with your mother. .. get together with the family.. and confront her and tell her ur worried and that you guys will all be there for her. probably the best way to go about it.
@ryan --- It's also spelled Mum in England... you know, the country that invented English. It's not our fault Americans can't spell and find the letter 'u' confusing...
Anyway, there are heaps of possible reasons for your Mother being paranoid, and you're really going to have to talk to a doctor about what your options are. Unless she turns violent however, (or even self-harming) it is unlikely anything will happen unless she does so voluntarily.
Your poor mother has been so badly hurt by someone in her life and this is the sad result of what happened to her and its so tragic to see or hear about. Yes she is acting out of hurt and actually has no idea how to make things better. I am assuming your dad is not around and this is probably also part of the rejection she has felt. How very sad.
You need to impress on her how special she really is and tell her you love her regardless of how irritation you might find her at the moment. She probably has few friends as well. Love her warts and all and just understand her and watch how you word yourself around her too.
What has happened is she has chosen negative over positive. Living with negative thoughts feelings and emotions is terrible and the lies and deceptions that are formed from that kind of thinking is tragically what has consumed your poor mother. Nothing you do will change it. She has to realize that she is her own worst enemy at the moment and get out of the pit of self pity where she is sitting. She needs to get out of the pit to discover that there are fields of hope and there is life out there and mountains of possibilities and to let go all the hurts, and most of all to forgive everything from her past whether the person who hurt her deserves the forgiveness or not. The forgiveness is not for the person but more for her because what she doesn't realize that the one who hurt her has moved on and is living a great life while she is sitting in mourning and despair with a huge mountain of negative ashes before her preventing her from moving forward. When she forgives it the mountain will disappear and the whole world will open up for her because she is no longer consumed by the negative she feels. I feel sorry for her because she cannot see this - all she sees is her pain and she lashes out at everyone in the process. Its a form of self destruction. She needs to choose forgiveness and not feel to forgive. It has to be a determined action that excludes feelings and emotions. Shes just to do it because she must and for no other reason. Its like washing dishes - you might not feel like it but you do it because you must or the ants will be all over the stuff. CHOICE.
Find nice things about her, give her a facial and rub her back and make her a bath with candles in the bathroom and take trouble. Begin doing nice things - it might not be appreciated at first but the more you do for her the more she will begin to feel someone cares for her. Sure its hard but it is a form of reaching out to her. Love is a funny thing - it actually does cover a multitude of sins. When you display love to her she will herself begin to love back. It will be a time thing but it will work. Don't feel to do it, just do it - she is your mother after all. She needs to be loved and nurtured and you are the only one right now who can do this. All women want to be loved, especially by a man. If she asks why you are doing this say because you need us all and we need you too and you are so special mum and need to know it. Everyone needs love although men tend to command respect more, so we give them respect. When a woman respects a man he will do just about anything for her too. Our whole wants love. I think especially the men - things would be a lot more peaceful with love! Well its up to you my child, I know what you are speaking of hence why i can speak from experience. We have to reach out to those who are hurting. We all need one another and right now your mum needs you!!! All of you! I hope you take this seriously.
Hi. I have an aunt with this situation and it is very horrifying. It appears like she is not taking her cure bc folks with this situation suppose not anything is unsuitable with them. Phone the health care professional instantly more often than not folks like this don't seem to be competent to are living by means of themselves and wish supervision. Good good fortune seeetie
maybe because you cant spell mom