Dad disapproves, HELP!!!?
There's this guy that I'm friends with, and we both have feelings for each other, but he has a gf so we're obviously not going to date, anywho, my dad dissapproves of the guy and I don't know Why! He's a good student who's active in sports (he plays for my dad in 2 sports) and he's also doesn't do hings that are illegal. He's very nice and has never been mean to me, but my dad tells me to stay away from him, but he won't ever give me a Reason! It makes me so mad, so we have to lie about texting each other, its ridiculous. So what should I Do! Any help would be greatly appreciated: )
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maybe your dad hears about how he treats girls or what he thinks about them in the sports that he coaches. if your dad spends that kind of time witih him, maybe your dad knows him better than you do.
Get your dad alone, sit him down, and have a mature conversation:
I'm not trying to be all 'you need to act mature' I'm saying that he may be thinking that you're his little girl and you don't need to be hanging out with guys (that's how my dad feels, but he doesn't say anything because I just changed schools and I don't know anybody that well) and if you show him that you're mature, and explain to him that you're still his girl then he might tell you his reason. And with this one, I'm assuming that you guys are in highschool, but he may be thinking about how teenage guys usually act. If he still doesn't approve, explain (in that mature way that will make him break just a little bit) that this guy is your friend and he, nor you can help that. Don't get frustrated with him. I ReLLY hope this helps, after all, I want you to be able to text your friend. X3
Maybe your dad has heard him bragging about having sex with girls. He may refer to girls in a bad way. He may have a lot of girlfreinds and not be nice tothem. I think he may curse or say bad things about other girls and yoru dad doesn't want him to speak about you that way.
It isin't just that he is a good student or is good in sports. The guy probably uses girls or laughs at them. Too bad you dad won't be honest with you about this, but he may have to be queit because he can't say all he knows becuase I assume he is a teacher. But if Dad doesn't get upset with every guy, then you need to listen to dad as this guy may be two faced and not be the guy you think he is.
So obviosuly your still in high school I assume... if your living in HIS(your fathers) house, you shoud respect him and not be around that guy. Friends come & go, but family will stay with you! I went through this almost exact situation before, as a sophmore in high school actually, and I wish I would of listened to my dad. Even tho I didn't agree with him at the time, he was right & I didn't listen.
Dads are always proctective of their daughters espeacially when it comes to dating guys. They think of them as their little princesses and doesn't want u getting hurt. Its a natural for dads to do this and their really isn't anything u can do. Maybe if u tried talking about him with ur dad and about all the good things about him he'd loosen up about him(:
If he plays sports for your dad your dad probably knows him better then you think he does. and has probably heard the way he talks to his friends about basically everything.. your dad has your best interest in mind!
You should talk with your dad about why he doesn't want you to hang out with him, if there is a serious reason then you should respect your dad's decision. Just ask him why he thinks that its best that you don't hang out with him. He can't protect you forever, even though he may want to.
As much as you don't want to hear this.. You should probably take your dad's word for it and stay away from him
The fact that he has a girlfriend might have to do with it. Stay away from him.
your dad is looking out for you