I'm too paranoid to love?
Tonight I asked this girl out. She said no, she was tired. Was going to bed early.
How do I trust her?
As a rule of thumb in general, I don't trust people. This strategy works fine, in the workplace on the street.
But how those this works in relationships? I can't find myself trusting anyone?
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Hunny, just relax. You've obviously been hurt in the past but you have to make a conscious effort not to bring past pain into new relationships. Sounds like this was the first time you asked this girl out, right? So just take her word for it. If you really like her then ask her out again another day, or tell her you'd like to take her out and want to know what day / time she is available. If she is interested, she'll tell you when she's free and you guys will go out. If she isn't interested, she'll have to come clean.
When you find the right person and think that she is worth it, you will make an effort to trust them for the sake of your relationship.
Dolt, trust isn't about walking around with your wallet in your hand and wearing a big sign that says "I HAVE MONEY IN MY HAND."
You don't trust to trust, you trust because someone has given you reason to trust, because someone has made the effort to reach that place where trust is tempted to take their hand and go skinny dipping. And that is true for relationships.
You ask someone out. If they say no, assume they don't like you and move on. And if they come back later and said "Why didn't you ask me out again," tell them "I don't have enough trust within to deal with people who play games." Whoever wants to date you has to date YOU, and that means your trust issues. You are your baggage.