My sister blackmails to control my Mum?
Well we just had this big argument because my sister eats like a pig and it just esculated. Shes 14 and im 16 and she seems to control my mum which I cant stand. Anyway, my mum says, "ok everyone stop, il stop shouting, you stop shouting!" and my sis just goes "no, you stop, i went to social services and you said youd change but you havnt changed a bit, you still shout about stupid things and to be honest, ive had it up to here with you". So my mum has this massive look of rage on her faced with clenched teeth and says 'how dare you speak to an adult in that manner?' and my sister shouted back and ran to her room. My mum followed her and said 'dont give me the evils like that' and she goes "its not evils its pure hatred" so my mum just walks out and comes crying to me in my room that she cant take all this blackmail about social services. I really sympathise for her because my sister is a little *****, shes 14 and my mum is 48 for christs sake! as she cant hit kids although she used to smack us alot, she feels shes being dictated and controlled? Is there any method my mum can use that will sort her out? My sister wants to go to Borneo and sucked up to my mum the other night saying she loved her and hugging her then to say that she needs £350 deposit for Borneo? Should my mum not pay for it? how can she regain her control?
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I think your mom needs to fight fire with fire. I don't know who is in Borneo, but if it is a family member, your mother should pay and ship over there. This kid needs to realize that the grass is not always greener on the other side. If your sister leaves, not only would it subtract the amount of stress and pain your mother is feeling, but it could teach your sister a valuable lesson.
Social services? To tell you the truth, I'm not one hundred percent sure what social services does exactly. If all it does is take the girl away to be taken care of by someone else, then I think your mom should give social services a go. I think your sister doesn't truly mean half the things she says like how she wants to leave, even if she, herself, thinks she does. Your little sister knows that your mom does not want her to leave, and by knowing that, she has your mom wrapped around her finger. If your mama can get the guts to turn around and let her daughter try to leave, she should. By allowing the girl to make her own decision on leaving she is setting herself free.
If the girl chooses to go to Borneo, soon she'll realize her mistake, and come back with a better attitude. If not, that means it is your mother who now has the upper hand. All your mother would have to do then is threaten to ship her off to where ever, and boom! The girl is shutting up.
Hope I helped. But remember, your mom has to be brave and help herself if she really wants help.
If your sister really does say something to social services your mom should just say shes trying to get out of trouble for blah blah blah. what bothers me about this is that MY mom blackmails ME about EVERYTHING. so your mom should do the same. Just say your not getting **** for christmas, and your not getting any money unless your a good, honest trustworthy child. She can confiscate things like her computer or phone or ipod when she tries to do that kinda stuff again. I used to be like that to my mom, and she completely turned around so now if i do something bad i have to work to gain back her trust again so i regret doing bad things to her. Just have her tell her that if she cant trust her own daughter she doesnt deserve anything.
Kil the little B****. Lol, jk.. dont do that but Let her know you and your mother have age suppiorority and throw in an insult, because if shes a fatty, she cant do much
what a *****