How do you avoid CONFLICTS?
we all know that it takes TWO to argue; and I hate to argue! I love PEACE!
Update:i wouldn't have thought to put this question in R&S; but, Yahoo recommended it.. I guess GOD knows best! *smile*
any spiritual advice would be appreciated too!
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try waiting until they ask you something. .. many times that will never happen.
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those who love peace are wise to keep quiet.
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We are to avoid strife and division. A hard thing to do in a world so conflicted... In my own life, I have reduced the drama and negativity to barely noticeable. I have peace. But I do have areas in my life where conflict can not be avoided. In such cases, I always pray about it usually for a long time before the issue/confrontation takes place. I am always loving and take the lower ground. I always give the benefit of the doubt unless there's a smoking gun in my face and it can not be ignored [if you know what I mean] and sometimes, that is the case. Generally, I find myself refusing to engage in things I know will lead to conflict for me. My Ex and all his shenanigans and people he knows - I limit my exposure and do not make his drama's my own, etc. It's hard to find a balance. God Bless. Peace be with you.
Sometimes conflicts can be a good thing - they help us resolve issues and get to the bottom of our differences with other people. Sometimes other people have information or a point of view that we hadn't considered and that's why they disagree.
But there is a right way and a wrong way to have a conflict. You can discuss something with someone without letting your emotions get out of control. If you feel your own emotions getting out of control or you sense that is happening to the other person, it may be best to end the conversation right there. Either walk away, make a joke to lighten the mood, or say hey, it's getting a little heated here, maybe we should pick this up some other time.
The important thing is to respect the other person and to know your limits. I know from my relationship with my inlaws that sometimes it takes alot of prayer to prepare yourself to deal with an especially difficult person. Sometimes, if someone is trying to pick a fight with you the best thing to say is nothing at all... let insults roll off your back - don't let people get to you. Take your problems to God and ask God to change that person's heart.
I don't often have conflicts. Perhaps because I rarely lie. I do couch the truth as nicely as possible though.
My husband and I have seemed to innately work well together-we've never had a "fight" so far and seem to be able to know when the other person needs some time to be alone, or vent, or be cranky without the other taking offense.
I'll let you know when we do have a fight how it worked out.
I'm sure it will happen at some point!
Medically speaking conflict can be healthy some times. there is a balance in all things. the type of conflict and threat of violence or physical harm are another level, but venting, reasoning, and compromise can be helpful when/where they apply to soothe conflict or bring understanding. paul one of the apostles in the bible had an argument with a friend on a missionary journey, but they put some space between themselves to avoid any head banging(fighting). exercise wisdom and discretion
I don't avoid conflict. I prefer peace, but you have to stand up for yourself. We learn & grow from conflict. If we had no conflict it would mean we were all robots believing in the same thing & no new ideas would ever form.
You don't. You can't go your entire life avoiding any kind of conflict, its not human nature. You have to learn how to deal with it properly. By talking it out instead of screaming, or worse.
But you are human like the rest of us and unless you deny who you are fundamentally as a person, you WILL have conflict with other people.
Peace is preferable but not always possible.
I don't see peace as no conflict, it's dealing with them in healthy ways. Sometimes conflict is good because it exposes problems. But it has to be dealt with directly and honestly in my opinion, as early as possible.
Whats wrong with walking away?
The easiest way would be to simply shut your mouth. (I'm not telling YOU to shut your mouth; I am just answering your question!)