how do I improve my self esteem? please help?
Hi everyone,
I'm 16 and have extremely low confidence. I am very flat- chested, skinny, short and have really bad frizzy hair. All of these things about me have caused me to get bad comments over the years; boys say that I'm ugly and that I have no boobs( which has caused me to want a boob job since I was about 11), I used to get called a midget a lot but that no longer happens anymore and my hair leads people to laugh at me and get horrible nicknames. I hate everything about myself but weirdly, I'm pretty open about my insecurities. I'll call myself flat-chested in front of people in a jokey way, to make it seem like I don't care what anyone says to me, when truthfully the smallest comment can ruin me. It's really strange because I used to be so confident, and anyone who doesn't know me particularly well will assume that I'm very confident. Looking in the mirror is horrible too, my body is awful! I've had these weird chicken pox scars since I was 2 on me and my stomach looks awful:( Once this boy liked me, and when his friend brought it up, he said that he was clearly 'on drugs' when he liked me. Also, every time I seem to have my hopes up about something, someone seems to feel the need to shoot me down e.g. I said I was going to learn how to drive (when I got to the right age) and 5 people in the group around me said that I'd be rubbish and that I shouldn't bother because I'd just crash it:\ how do I get more confidence if I feel terrible all the time:(
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I can totally relate to how you feel! I'm a couple of years older but I feel really insecure about my looks and especially my height because I am really short. I've tried to do that thing of making all the jokes first so that other people can't make them, but what I find more successful is getting people's attention onto more positive things about me. It also helps me to remember the positives sometimes, when all I can see are the negatives. Does that make sense? I am starting to feel less negative, I guess you could say more confident, but it's always good to talk to other people who know how it feels. If you want to mail me to talk about stuff that's ok. [email protected]. If not, that's ok too. Good luck!
since you're in teenage such feelings are likely to occur to you, but you need to get a hold of feelings.
It doesn't matter how others see you, what matters the most is how you see yourself. the best way to improve your self confidence is to BELIEVE in YOURSELF and always work hard to improve your weakness
Dont bother about your body structure, your body is yet in a developing stage . just KEEP CALM AND BELIEVE . IN YOURSELF.
Hey,
Send me an email if you want and I can try to offer some tips to help! [email protected]
But seriously, a girl does not need large breasts to be loved, and should not feel compelled to having to get breast implants. Also do not listen to the guys who say you are ugly, love yourself for who you are and realise that you are beautiful. Also if those people are bringing you down you best abandon them. They are just selfish jerks who care only about themselves.
Cheers! Good luck! Email me: [email protected]