Activities to do with dad?
So my dad is not a family man. He's someone who would rather be with his friends playing golf than with his kids. I want to get to know my father more and have a non-awkward relationship with him. What are some activities to do?
Here are some that I can think of:
-fishing
-kayaking
-golfing
...
Yep. I don't really like fishing with him because he thinks he knows what he's doing but he bought a $200 deep sea rod for our local lakes ( Which I tried telling him. I know more about fishing/bait than him) so we're just sitting there catching nothing but water.
Also I don't know how much we can bond in golf, I see that situation being really awkward for some reason.
I LOVE kayaking, always been fascinated with it and would love to go recreational/fishing kayaking with him, but I don't know if he'll be willing to spend that much money on something just for me...
So what did you and your father do to bond?
PS I'm a girl, so no football or baseball or any of that, lol. (I am a tomboy, so if you have anything boyish but not too much I'm up for it I guess).
Update:Thank you Antasia and "Doc" for answering my question so far. To Doc: Honestly I'm not really one to care much about feminism. If you let sexism get you that riled up then that's just more stress on your shoulders. To Antasia: I don't watch TV at all haha, so sports like fishing and hunting are probably my best option. I'll keep the question up in case someone else wants to answer but thank you!
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Woo! Firstly, good job for taking the initiative to bond with your dad! ^^
I'm also a girl, and on top of that, my dad doesn't do any sports so what we do to bond together is kind of limited.
What my dad and I do is that we watch TV together. We watch the sports channel (he doesn't do them but he really likes watching them). And even though I know about the sport and the athletes/ players, I just randomly ask him question so he knows that I am interested and he would also get excited and start talking more (sometimes even talking about how he was when he played games with his friends in the past).
We also watch shows/ dramas together (also cause my dad like to watch them). So like when watching sports, I pop questions here and there. We would then start making fun of the cliche plots and do on-spot translation of the dialogues.
I guess what's important is doing things (doesn't matter what as long as you put the effort in) together.
Something random: One thing I've really learnt and felt from my dad is that all dads (and moms) really still see their child as a baby. Though they want their child to grow up and be mature, they also really want to know that their child is still their baby. And so, sometimes acting childish or clueless is also a good way to let them feel that they are still needed to take care of and guide their child.
I have three daughters. I took the middle one to the Woman's Hall of Fame in Seneca Falls, New York a dozen years ago. I wanted her to be aware of the unique, special history of women and their contribution to humankind. I told her about Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Dr. Mary Edwards Walker, the only woman ever to receive the Medal of Honor - yeah, that one! I wanted her to see for herself how women overcame incredible odds in order to begin to be treated like equal human beings. And this very morning, my other two girls are visiting Seneca Falls with their step-mom so that they can be inspired to join with other women to combat current efforts to limit their rights and liberties. I couldn't go this morning, so I paid for their trips.
Boyish? Not at all - but then, I've always been a humanist and feminist. I proved my manhood beyond a shadow of a doubt, having honorably served in the Vietnam War with the 101st Airborne Division. I will never apologize, either for teaching my daughters to be feminists or for my service to my country. Perhaps your father can take inspiration from my story.