Do these make sense as rules?
I'm about to date this guy at my school. His parents are divorced, and his dad has a history of drug use. This guy lives with his dad and brother. My mom doesn't want me at their house because of both facts until she gets to know them. Do these rules make sense?
Plus, she said she doesn't want us making out in front of her, which I would never do. Is she freaking out because I'm growing up or something?
I'm 16 btw :-)
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Her worries are legitimate. Often, people who have parents who abuse drugs, are divorced, or engage in some dangerous activities follow their parents' lead. There is a saying "tell me who are your friends, and I'll tell you who you are". Same goes for family, and there are rarely exceptions. Your mom just wants to make sure that your guy won't get you involved in drugs and won't do anything stupid.
And most moms don't like it when their kids make out with their boyfriends in front of them...so that's normal.
Just accept all her worries as her being caring towards you.
Oh also one more thing - consider yourself lucky that she even considered letting you date him. Most moms wouldn't even consider letting their children date someone whose parents are divorced and one who uses/used drugs. The only reason your mom is willing to consider you dating him is because she understands that you like him and cares about your feelings.
You mum is exactly right and being really fair and this make perfect sense.
A parent would never want a their child exposed to an environment where there has even been a hint of drug use, let alone definite drug use.
Any normal parent would want to know get to know the occupants of a house that your are going be going to establish a relationship there, that there is no drug use or any other form of negative behavior (which at a point in time lead to a divorce) are both no longer in existence.
This is completely sensible and no where close to "freaking out"
You mum wants to be aware of a different environment that you are choosing to become a part of.
Until you are 18 she is completely (in a legal sense at least) completely responsible for you.
You are a lucky girl that you have a such a caring and sensible mum, who clearly loves you a lot, and still gives you the chance to experience this relationship with the new guy from an environment that she has reasons for concern.
These rules are reasonable because his dad used to use drugs and he lives with his dad and brother. Your mom just wants to protect you because there ARE only guys in there and she doesn't want you to get hurt. Also his dad did use drugs, which are very dangerous. She might be freaking out a little because you're growing up if she asks you to not make out in front of her, but that's what all parents do.
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They do make sense, I'm afraid. Since the dad has a history of drug use, I'm sure she wants you to be safe since that's what moms do. Try to reason with her, and show her some nice things about this guy.
I never claimed to be a boyscout, but due to my own stupid past I did learn that drugs are a losers game that no one should be around. She is not being unreasonable. I had a daughter that was around the type and ended up on meth. She still fights the demon to this day. Be grateful that she is looking out for you. You can be given drugs without even knowing it happens(until it's too late). Trust no one but family as they are the only ones that aren't looking to gain anything from you other than your love in return. You'll know when you get older who you can trust and who you can't. I tried to get my daughter to listen, but sadly she thought she was older and wiser than me. Now she still pays the price. Good Luck. (BTW: take the time to tell your mom thanks and that you love her very much too!)
Ew! Why do you make out in front of your mom?? No wonder it makes her
uncomfortable!
Your bf has a history of drug use. you don't know what else they do at home, so I do understand
your mom not wanting to be over there..
Yeahhhh
Her rules sound reasonable. She at least tells you "not until she gets to know them." Plus, who wants to see their daughter making out?
theres nothing wrong with your relationship. your family is being overprotective.