do you think I am asexual?
so im a girl. and I've tried the boyfriend thing. didn't do it. i hate kissing guys. so for the past year I've come to terms with the fact that i could be a lesbian. i would much rather kiss a girl then a guy. so if anything I'm gay. but i can't see myself have sex of giving oral sex to either. is that normal? or have i just not found the right person yet? i know i like kissing girls. guys gross me out. i think oral sex or intercourse is weird. seems gross! am i asexual? don't know! anyone know?
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Yes, you could be asexual. You sound like a homoromantic asexual to me then, if you are repulsed by guys. Since you don't have any interest in sex, or any desire to have sex, that would pretty much classify you as asexual.
Some asexuals will tolerate sex for the sake of a sexual partner, but others are repulsed by it even and refuse to submit to it.
It is normal for asexuals to be romantic towards others (heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, panromantic, demiromantic, etc.). Kissing, cuddling, etc. Some asexuals are aromantic and only wish to develop platonic relationships and companionships with others. (You don't sound aromantic to me)
Many people will tell you "Oh, you just haven't met the right person yet" or "oh, you are just too young" or "oh, you're hormones are low" etc, etc, etc. Don't listen to that. Asexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation and if you are asexual, nothing can change that.
There's a website called AVEN, the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network. You should check it out.
http://www.asexuality.org/home/
Here's a link to their FAQ page, which has a list of the criteria for what is and is not considered parts of asexuality. This will help you immensely.
http://www.asexuality.org/home/general.html
If you have any more questions or concerns, feel free to shoot me a message.
Best of luck!
:')