why do my parents play favorites?
My parents have always played favorites. My older sister could do no wrong and my baby sister got anything she want. I was always told to be quiet and that I was a bad child. The thing is, I am the only one who made it through school. I am the only one who put myself through college and graduated with 2 degrees. I'm the only one that has a nice, respectable family. But they still play favorites and put me down. My older sister and I moved away from home. I call every week and they wont answer but maybe once every 2 months. She never calls. She married rich and I am doing fine but not as well off as her husband. Well, my dad just bought their whole family round trip tickets down to see him. He said he wants me to come down too and I said I couldnt afford it. He said he would only buy a small portion. and then he said we would have to rent a car because hes going to be loaning his car to my sister. it just makes me so mad and sad. why do they hate me? I was honestly a good kid.
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I'm so sorry. I don't know why parents play favorites or why they hate you. Parents are people too and make mistakes. We tend to have this idea in our minds as to how we would like our parents to treat us and we have a strong desire to be loved and accepted by them, but because they make mistakes they don't always live up to this and it can be hurtful. Try to accept the fact that they treat you differently. Once you accept it, it won't bother you as much. For example, you accept the fact that the sky is blue. You never think about how you feel about it being blue, it just is. It's not easy to get this point, but once you do it's like a weight being lifted. If you can't afford to see your dad, then don't go. You have to think about how taking on an added expense will affect your family. Focus on the good things in your life. You have love from the family you started and have so let this love heal your sadness.
My parents are the same though they'd never admit it. I'm the black sheep. I've worked hard and done FAR more than my sibling but i get nothing but disrespect and they get their entire life paid for. Don't ask me why this is so. I've always been in this place. My father seems to despise me. it's been an ongoing source of pain in my life. I'm working hard to move beyond it and make my life the way I want it to be without their help. it's hard with all the negative feelings. I keep trying. It's all i can do. Hang in there. Keep your head up.
I know exactly how you feel. I went through this with my parents as well. Years later I realized my parents knew I could handle things and my siblings could not. This probably goes back to things that happened before you were born or at least before you can remember and it is not likely that anyone is going to discuss it anytime soon. It sounds like you have your stuff together and you are going to be able to make something of yourself. Don't let yourself get bitter about this. One day you will be the one with a home that's paid for and either having your own business or a really good job. And your brother will still be looking for someone to take care of him. While your situation is certainly unfair eventually you will be able to make the best of this. For now look for the things that make you feel good about yourself - even the small things. Every time you complete a job well done you have brought yourself up just a little higher - something your brother isn't doing. It will pay off. Have faith - you are the better man for this.