how do you feel normal?
I hear a lot about counseling and getting therapist but I'm the kind of person who has lost everyone in her life. I'm also the kind of person who doesn't have money for something like that. Not to mention time. How do I feel normal, have normal thoughts? I want to be able to not be so emotional. I analyze myself and find that I have abandonment issues and sadness for being alone and not being able to trust people.
it's beginning to affect my relationship with my boyfriend who is now the last bit of happiness I have left. How can I save myself from insecurities depression? how can I live life normally if my life my family is one big destructive past, and is a constant reminder of how dishonest and reckless people really are? I just want to be happy.
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It sounds like you may be suffering from depression and as a result, you are populating negative thoughts in your mind. I too feel like my life is pointless and sometimes is being lived without a purpose, but I also know that my feelings are mainly a manifestation of my thoughts. From what I understand the more positive your thoughts, the more positive your life experience.
I would suggest that you find out why your negative thoughts dominate your mind and try to make a conscious effort to change those thoughts. Try to become more aware of your thinking and when a negative thought comes to mind like you feel alone, lost, or that you are not normal, replace those thoughts with positive things such as you have some friends (even if it's not very many), you have health, you have a home, you have God, and that you are alive. Basically, you want to find a way to be thankful for what you have because that brings about positive emotions and thinking.
Read "The Secret" or look it up on youtube. It provides great knowledge about positive thinking and how it can instantly improve your thinking and your life. Find a purpose for your life like charity, volunteerism, or simply helping friends and family. This gives you pleasure that nothing else can provide. Think of ways to contribute to the world rather than thinking of ways the world has failed to contribute to you and I think that alone will help you change your thought process and will improve your feelings of not being normal. Do things that normal people do and act in ways that normal people act and normalcy will find you. I am not saying don't be your own person or have your own personality, rather do normal things and put your own personal twist on them.
I am by far and expert or have all the answers but I do think that my advice is sound and will give you a good start. Seeing a counselor will probably help you out tremendously considering your abandonment issues. Hope this helps at least a little!
First of all learn about self-talk---your self talk is determining your outcomes in life--including your "self-talk" about 'not having enough"
http://www.positivethinking-toolbox.com/the-law-of...
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/words-can-chan...
http://www.motivationalmemo.com/i-am-responsible/
Self Talk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rvzfnm9uk-0
Self talk –Shad Helmstetter
http://www.shadhelmstetter.com/selftalk/
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Neglected Victory Gardens by Napoleon Hill
The conscious mind is the guardian of the garden spot of the subconscious mind. Neither negative nor positive thoughts can enter the subconscious mind without full consent of the conscious mind except thought out of the blue, received through the sixth sense. All sense impressions received through the five senses are stopped at the gate by the conscious, thinking mind, for inspection and acceptance or rejection. The conscious mind is therefore a sentry posted to guard the approach to the precious subconscious.
Weeds will grow in abundance in the fertile garden spot of the subconscious if the seeds of preferred crops are not sown. Through self-suggestion, you can voluntarily feed your subconscious mind on thoughts of a creative nature or, by neglect, permit thoughts of a destructive nature to find their way into this rich garden.
Definiteness of purpose will keep your mind clear of the things you don’t want and keep it so busy working on the things you do want that it will have no time to grow the weeds that are undesirable. Judging from the products many people are harvesting, their minds must resemble neglected victory gardens.
Source: PMA Science of Success Educational Edition. The Napoleon Hill Foundation. 1961. Pg. 32.
Chaos Kid
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IrrjRYLKOGk&feature...
There are SO many resources out there to help you that are economical....
---Make it a priority to get help for your self healing.
Find peace and happiness by applying yourself towards what that is that makes you happy, and away from those things and people causing unhappiness without feeling guilty or threatened by it. That's the only way, and everyone is responsible for it, and owes that to them self.