respectful or disrespectful?
Ok, I just wanted to get opinions from people all over the place. A little back info, I'm a 'true' bisexual, female, and in my early 20s.
When in a group of people or people I don't know that well and they ask about my sexuality, I always say I'm strait. I believe everyone should be comfortable in their sexuality, and I am comfortable with myself. The reason I answer this way is because I don't want them to think that I'm going to start making out with other girls at parties or have 3 ways every weekend. However, my close friends and family know I'm bi and if somebody asks me one-to-one I'll tell them the truth; that I am bi, not strait.
So my question is, do you think that I'm being disrespectful since I sometimes lie to people or more respectful since I'm not flaunting around my sexuality for attention.
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Depends on your own definition of the term. For one, I find that type of white lie, when used in such circumstances, to be not good or bad, barely neutral since pretty much everyone does it. It's not expected of you to always tell the whole truth to everyone, you know.
Have you considered though that it may be disrespectful to yourself as it destroys some of the opportunities you could have had? When a group asks you this chances are that at least one of them, or somebody they know, wants to know for personal gain. Maybe some cute girl is behind that gang and asked one of them to ask you so she would know if she has a chance with you or to not even try. As you tell them you're straight, the shy girl won't go towards you.
To continue on that topic did you notice that it's the bluntest, most at ease with their sexuality, people that easily find love? It's because they are proud and about that they inspire people and people go to them.
I don't think you would be flaunting your sexuality for attention by simply answering the truth when asked. One way or another though I don't think it's a question of being respectful or not to other, but only to yourself.
do Not Listen To Scott Your Not Being Disrepectful But Your Not Been Turee You Should Show Who You Are No Matter What Who Cares What People Think Of Youu And I Dont Think Ppl Think Tht When They Hear Bisexaul : )
No, I don't see a problem with it. No one really needs to know your sexuality except those close to you.
I wonder why people ask you that unless they want to have sex with you ? I think your doing right they don't need to know what or who you are unless they are your friends . Screw them and what ever they rode in on .
I just don't think it is any ones business what your sexuality is. You are doing it right.