how do i conquer paranoia?
in all the relationships ive been in ive eventually came to belive that my girl is doing someone else
it always drives them away
im tired of being alone or at least knowing that soon i will be because of it
i often think when people are laughing they are laughing at me
i have a fear of crowds (socializing/mingleing) for the same reason
of you have any suggestions let me know
Comments
Number one on your list is to stay well away from canabis.
(Not saying you dont already, just saying that if you are into it, it can be a major CAUSE of this problem)
Bottom line of your issue is self esteem issues.
Why do you feel LESS than?
Why would people be laughing at you?
What reason would they have?
I have been paraniod in my life. I understand it for sure.
The way I get around it is to always ask questions. Just to see where people are at. For example, if people are laughing go ask them what they are laughing at. They will say, oh Sam just cracked a joke, or such and such is hillarious or most often something that has NOTHING to do with you.
So, that behind you, use you thoughts to keep yourself in check. If you feel that you girlfriend is on with some one else then ask yourself if you have any RATIONAL reason for that thought. Like, she is never with you. Or, she is vauge about what she is doing, or she is trying to avoid you or she is acting strangly.
Thing is, women do get tired of being accused of something they would never dream of doing.
Be committed, be a good boyfriend, but dont be clingy or jealous, this will drive women AWAY for sure.
Be CONFIDENT in yourself. Are you good company? Are you interested in your girlfriend? Do you endevour to be supportive of her interests? etc...
What reason do you HAVE to believe that she would want to look else where?
Your relationship with yourself needs healing. Get that one right and in balance and the others will work out fine.
Get some feedback from people who know you. Ask them what they think about you. Give them a ten question sheet to assess things about you that you are unsure of. I am sure that you will realise the reality is different to what is going on in your head.
Good luck
Well, have your girlfriends been messin’ around? The best way to overcome paranoia is to get a girlfriend who does not mess around and with time you will loose that fear. As for the other fears you have, well the best thing is to just force yourself to face them. Go to a bar during happy hour and just listen to the other drunk people laughing & having fun. You will soon realize that they are not laughing at you but just at some stupid joke someone said. You can also go to the mall on weekends and just walk around and observe the crowds. This will make you feel more comfortable in a social situation so that next time you have to actually socialize in a crowd you won’t be as nervous.