I made a Big BIG mistake!?
There are these to guys..... Guy number 1 known for about 6 months.....Guy number 2 about 1month 1/2. Here goes........
Guy #1...We were getting really close....we both were falling for eachother...he asked to take the friendship further.....me being the cautious person I am had to take a step back to see if that's what I wanted..by then it was too late, he said maybe we should stick to friends for awhile until were both ready. So we stopped seeing eachother as much.
Guy #2 and I just started talking recently thru a friend.....he calls me everynight and we stay on the phone for hours....half of those hours are talking about guy #1......we've been out a few times....but I only see him as a friend....The other day he really laid his feeling on the table for me....I didn't know what to say or do....Now I feel so bad b/c all this time I had one guy after me while still holding on to another.
I still have mad feelings for guy #1.....we went out the other day....but I don't know how he feels about me anymore....I would love to try and start something with him again.
I like being friends with guy #2 but that's it.....I don't like to hurt peoples feelings etentialy(sp).....but now I'm confused and I need you guys opinions....Oh yeah I did apologize to him about blabbering on about guy #1.
Comments
To me...
it sounds like guy1 is the right one for you
(if he is a true friend) guy2 will always be a close friend, there to help you with the issues you WILL have and if he doesn't help you he will at least be a good listener(deep down he didn't want to hear about guy1 but he cares about how u feel, so he listened)
Life is confusing sometimes but you have people all around you that want to help
I Hope I Was Able To Help
(I've been guy#2 before)
Good luck on your journey through life...
tell number one how you really feel about him and see if he feels the same way about you. and hopefully he will give you another chance. just tell him that you were just afraid to go any further, but then you realized how much he means to you.
guy number two, well just tell him that you love being his friend and he means a lot to you, but you just dont have those kind of feelings for him and that you hope you two can still be friends like you are now.
hopefully they will understand.
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and nicole, yes you would just step back and find other "non serious guys" perhaps you are a whore? most girls wnat someone who is serious. if you dont want it to be serious, all you really want is someone there so you aren;t alone, or just a fxck buddy.
you are a kind of girl guys should stay away from unless they just want a quick fck, and not a relationship, cause in the end, seems like they would either get dumped within a short period of time or cheated on.
Seriously, this is YOUR life and you need to focus on YOUR feelings. You may feel closer to one more than the other and that's fine. Do not feel like you have to justify your feelings to any man.
Tell #1 that you want to spark things up again and tell #2 that you can't see this going any further that friends and you appreciate him being there for you and hope the friendship is strong enough that he will remain.
You should be honest with guy #1 and tell him taht you are ready...if you are. But with guy #2 you should definatly talk to him and tell him taht you would just rather stay the way you are rigth now, I went through the same thing and I went out with guy #2 dumped him a week later because I was still in love madly with guy #1 and me and guy #2 are still friends
Well, first understand this about yourself and guy #2:
A woman will only allow a straight male to be her a friend because she views him as only being a worthy "giver" (of things like attention, sympathy, support, money, free dinners, etc), but not a worthy "lover". So, be nice and honest to yourself and guy #2 by telling him to hit the road.
As far as guy #1? Cut the crap, stop playing games and go for it!
What i would do is just take a step back and focus on other thing besides boys, perhaps hang with the girls or catch up on more homework. Then when your mind is cleared, go to both guys and see where you stand with them. Personally, i would let both boys go and find other non serious guys for a while.:) GOOD LUCK!!!
Guy #1 didn't even have the patience of a fruit fly before he got bored with you. Who in their right mind finds that attractive?
Guy #2 is practically throwing himself at you, has been there for you in the good times and bad and you're not sure what you want to do?
My best advice: If it makes you feel good, TRULY good, in every way to be with guy #1, then be with him. If it makes you feel truly good and loved to have guy #2 in your life, then pick him.
Well to be truthful with you, you should go out with guy #1 & tell guy #2 that you & him can be friends & guy#1 can be your boyfriend & try not to mess things up for your life & see if guy#1 will be your boyfriend & ask guy #2 to be your friend.
you say u want to start something AGAIN with guy 1 but I dont see what you really had in the first place if he wanted to further the friendship. If he really wants to be with you he will wait until you are ready.
Go with your heart. Explain to guy #1 you realize how deep your feelings are for him, and you'd be thrilled if you guys had a 2nd chance.
Explain to guy #2 then that things aren't working between you two, but as friends.