no support for my career path?
Im an Asian female. 5'4 (decent but still not a great height) and very interested in joining the military as a combat medical attendant. My entire family have announced their disapproval saying the army is a mans job and not a place for women to be. I believe they will never support me and neither will my friends as i am female, and they are all very girly. My mum doesnt even let me carry 10kg worth of shopping from the car when i am more than capable of carrying it, she said my uterus is going to fall off!!
they have very traditional views on gender roles and its almost impossible to change. My last option is to oppose them all and do it anyway but i would much rather their support.
What to do?
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Ok, no offense, but your family is stupid and old-fashioned. You may love them, and want their support, but there is no way that you're going to get their approval. If it's what you really want to do, and if they love you and you do it, in the end they'll support you one way or another, whether they like it or not. Women are perfectly capable of the same things as men- except peeing standing up, and I've met some who have mastered that. Nothing you do will injure your freaking uterus unless you stick something sharp up in there, or take drugs, or get get an STD. As long as you don't like try to lift a car, you're good. I say go for it.
Hi Trip,
I am a researcher in philosophy. Do not be put off with the technological word. In simple terms it means true knowledge of life. Your life is not a loaned property. When your advisers (including parents) are no more there to support you, what use is of the advice of remaining inert and confused? I am also an external person and hence you must not readily believe me also. But you can visit my answer. Weigh up my answer not blindly but with your life! Life is your private property and that is what you must apply to make decisions. I now tabulate some outlines that are associated with life.
1. Life is limited by time. Confusion is using up life as time, without going anywhere in life. To kill confusion, go to next item.
2. The first decision is Hell or Heaven. There are people who choose the path of cheating others, robbing, etc. Note that remaining inert is also Hell! Since you are neither inert nor evil, you already have chosen Heaven as your direction. This is where you have got stuck. Cogitate this deeply and be sure I am not misguiding you in any way. When you are satisfied with my answer, go to the next item that reveals the path of truth as set by God.
3. The path of truth has five steps--Life, Love, Beauty, Joy, Freedom and that is complete success formula as God created it as idea. If you feel confused, see the explanation below.
Life = ask yourself, "What inspires me?" The answer that comes NATURALLY from within you actually as INSPIRATION, is your answer!
Love = ask yourself, "What skill do I love to learn?" The answer that comes NATURALLY from within you actually as LOVE, is your answer!
Beauty = ask yourself, "What beautiful work I want to do in life?" The answer that comes NATURALLY from within you actually as BEAUTY, is your answer!
Joy = ask yourself, "What do I want to have to enjoy in my life?" The answer that comes NATURALLY from within you actually as JOY, is your answer!
Freedom = ask yourself, "How do I want to end my life?" The answer that comes NATURALLY from within you actually as FREEDOM from all encumbrance of life, is your answer!
If you want to crosscheck, visit the life history of any stalwart of your choice and you will discover they followed this 5-step rule of life. If you like this philosophical idea, here is a little explanation.
Visit any of the five elements and become aware of a definite pattern, which is--Question, Life, Answer. For example: Beauty (Q) = answer as NATURAL (L) BEAUTY (A). That means God pre-programmed life to seek out its own answer! Do you now see why EXTERNAL answers of others never create success for others? That explains why the Self-help books have no real use in life! People visit such books, become confused and throw away the books and wither out in life. YOU ARE NOT GOING TO MAKE THAT MISTAKE!
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PS: Do consider the job options that the community friends offer. I suppose these suggestions are good.