How To Control Hot Temper?
I was brought up in a family full of violence. My father and all his family members have very hot tempers, and are cynical to an unthinkable extent. Since very little I'v been shameful of this fockin family and had made my decision not to be that kind of human being. And I really have been regarded nice by most of my friends. but recent years i find it harder and harder to control myself. I'm now 29, and from now and then would have quick and unreasonable outburst. I would yell at service folks or shopgirls, or telephone salesmen.
AND I would seek very radical and insane way to resolve trivial and meaningless issues.
I wonder is hot temper inherited or just influenced by close folks like family members? and HOW DO I CONTROL IT? I feel so helpless.
OR is this symptoms of schiz????? BTW what r symptoms of schiz??
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I don't think that you are suffering from any major psychological trauma. You are delusional if you are schizophrenic and it doesn't sound like you have that tendency.
You just have an anger issue. That tendency was certainly inherited to some extent and your family temper tantrums that you described also have a major influence.
However, you have made the hardest step to start to ameliorate the problem. You know that you have a problem.
I suggest that you just think of changing your response and internal reaction to circumstances that normally cause an angry reaction on your part.
Who you are is not determined by what others perceive you to be. You are not defined by others. You are defined by your own internal spirit. The angry thoughts that are presented to your awareness by an overactive ego can be relegated to the background of your consciousness by only becoming aware of their import and their purpose.
You don't need to suppress those angry thoughts. Just know that there is no reason for you to act on them. They are random thoughts that you can choose to ignore, rather than be controlled by or obsessed with.
I doubt it's inherited ... i reckon its just learned. First thing to do would be to fully accept yourself for who you are. Everyone gets angry sometimes and don't beat urself up about it. Beating urself up only makes you more angry and the more angry you get the more you will have outbursts. The more you accept yourself the less angry you will be. I'm not saying be full of yourself and deliberately go out and yell at people, i'm just saying if it happens don't beat urself up ... move on. Tomorrow is another day and tomorrow you won't get angry. In the heat of the moment you can also try counting to 10 in your head or you could focus on what your body is doing for example do you feel tense is your head spinning are you getting goose bumps. Your body usually tells you when you are angry and when u learn to realise the symptoms you can make an effort to avoid them.
as u get older, its getting harder, bacause one have the tendency to get cynical over life, especially if u live in that kind of family. try to avoid people with negative thinking and who cannot control their anger. what u can do, when u feel like to burst up over a small matter are :
1. take a deep breath and count to 10. ( count slowly )
2. think why you angry? is this matter worthy enough for you to burst up emotionally?
3.think positive
I actually have a genuine temper problem as nicely. It was lots worse inspite of the undeniable fact that, and that i'm now lots greater on top of problems with it. i began out out by way of doing straight forward issues, that whilst they nonetheless weren't very "on top of issues" style of issues, they might a minimum of shop me from doing some thing unfavourable. attempt screaming right into a pillow, for starters. i comprehend it sounds kinda' cliche and stupid, in spite of the undeniable fact that it particularly is an exceedingly good rigidity reliever. next, attempt determining. Push-ups, sit down-ups, squats, lunges, etc. actual workout will cool your temper rapid. as quickly as you have sufficient of a cope with on your temper first of all, attempt sitting down and writing some thing. whether it particularly is in simple terms an offended letter to regardless of the source of your anger is. Say each and every thing you want to declare interior the letter, and then injury it afterwards. possibly once you have have been given your temper decrease than administration by way of that lots, you will have the skill to channel it into some thing greater desirable. I, as an occasion, write poetry and thoughts. having suggested that, there is often violent video-video games, which I nonetheless often use, as nicely. finally, you will possibly need to think of approximately what is going to happen in case you do act rashly. what is going to happen -this- time once you lose your temper? what is going to happen interior the long-term? that would desire to deter you surprisingly lots, additionally. by way of the time i grow to be completed typing this, I additionally observed lots of folk suggesting drugs or anger administration. those issues might desire to help some human beings, yet they're by no ability the main suitable or basically answer. i might STRONGLY propose averting scientific care OR drugs, till once you have given truthful attempt to greater self sufficient possibilities.
close your eyes, breathe and count to ten slowly.