How do i build self esteem?
Ever since I was 10 years old... My younger brother and sister have always picked on me because I got my puberty (boobs, period, and acne) and my mom never stopped them. For almost 3 years, I was picked on and humiliated always wearing loose clothes, I wore the same vest almost every single day regardless if the weather way hot. It was so bad that I used to walk with my back tilted and until now I slightly have a hunch back. I'm turning 18 next month and things are different now that I live with my dad. They don't make fun of me. But like I know for damn sure that my whole low self esteem was from them and also from the fact that I have crooked teeth and body acne scars and my face used to have horrible acne but now its gone and left me with huge pores, redness and some scars. My face looks like an old woman's face without makeup. Hopefully in the future though, I'll graduate from college, get a good job and get my teeth and skin fixed since I can't afford it now. But in general, how can I get rid of my low self esteem? I cry every night lol its that bad. I mean being jealous of other girls, and always looking in the mirror, and not knowing how to accept or believe compliments...
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well, it's not surprising that you have low self-esteem since many of your family members have been basically telling how inadequate you are over these years. What is good is that you're not living with them anymore. You may want to keep some distance from them in the future if all they make you do is feel bad about you. So for one, time will help.
Well, you need to find other people in your life who won't tease you like that. It'll take time, but once you see that other people aren't bothered by your appearance, you'll start feeling better about yourself.
Lastly, don't only focus on your appearance. You are choosing to base your self-esteem on your appearance, something that everybody loses eventually with age. Cocentrate on school, hobbies, etc and set goals and do your best to achieve them. Let these things be important to you and derive your self-esteem from them.
Good luck!
Look. Ive never seen you. But that doesnt mean Im gonna judge you. You are unique in your own way. It doesnt matter what people look at on the outside its whats on the inside that matters. Tell yourself your pretty and dont focus on scars or redness. If you look in the mirror and say Damn Im Hot! Then that will be your attitude.
Smile and say hi to anyone and everyone. whether you know em or not. trust me it works. after a while, you'll feel a lot better since you're being friendly.