Bridal shower dilema?
My sister is getting married and has asked me to be her maid of honor. I was going to start setting up her shower but it seems that my mother has taken charge and every idea that I have, has been shut down because its either not good enough or not what my sister would want. She thinks if she doesnt do it, it wont be perfect and the guests will think negatively about the situation. The only question she has asked me if I would rather want chicken or veal on the menu……Any suggestions on how to resolve this?
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Let you mom plan the shower, just ask to be co-host. You can plan the bachelorette - mom can't interfere with that (lol). Good luck kid - weddings involve lots of drama.
First of all, choose chicken.
I think you need to ask your mother for some time to have a frank talk, and honestly tell her how you feel: you want to live up to the 'honor' part of being asked to be 'maid of honor' and you have been feeling left out. Tell her how much you want to be involved. If she is not open to hearing your feelings, maybe you can ask your sister if she likes your ideas directly, however if the wedding is very soon she may be too busy. Don't take it personally, just love your sis and support her on her big day, and know that your mom is probably just overexcited.
Your mother is being a mom. She wants to run the show for her daughter because after all, (in her opinion) mom's know best. I would give her this one because, quite frankly, it is not worth the drama to try and gain control of the shower. Be helpful and assist in any way you can. If you really want something your way, just make it happen and your mother will find out the day of the shower.
Have sis either talk to mom if she wants you to do the shower, or tell mom that she can do the whole thing and not to ask for your advice about anything and wish her luck putting it all together and having it turn out great. She'll back out!
Personally, I would just let her handle all the arrangements. It really isn't hurting anyone. She's obviously excited about her daughter getting married and is exceeding her pay-grade. It isn't worth causing a stink about, I wouldn't think.
Let your sister know that mom has taken over the planning, so sis won't be surprised.