Good report cards can lead to potential scholarships. That itself is a reward. Kids should not get paid for doing well in school. If you start, they'll stop because they'll want more money.
A good grade is its own reward. Getting rewarded for something that is expected of you can lead you to want rewards for everything - and make you resentful when there is no reward given. So, yes, it's the minimum expectation.
Bad grades. Well, if the child is engaging in activities that distract them from their studies, then those activities need to be taken under control. Taking away privileges is a good way to get the child to understand that poor work performance can lead to more than just bad grades. Imagine someone only half-heartedly doing their job: he/she will be censured, if not fired. Teaching bad consequences come when work is neglected is therefore a healthy thing. However, if the child is really trying his/her best, then it's time to find extra help through a tutor or a doctor (for a learning disability).
We plan on "rewarding" good grades to reinforce that we expect that of them. By reward, I mean things like a special supper or an extra privilege. Not so much material rewards.
I will not discipline for bad report cards UNLESS it is because they simply were not giving it any effort. As long as they are doing their best and their best happens to earn them a D, then at least they are trying. I will however hire a tutor for them if that's the case.
I think good grades should be recognized, not rewarded. Getting an "A" and the feeling of pride they (should) have is the reward for their hard work. A "good job" and going out for pizza is proper recognition. The goal, especially when it comes to school, should be internal motivation, not external motivation.
I would discipline for bad grades if they came from not doing homework, not studying, not trying, etc.
My parents belief and mine is that school is their job and the report card their paycheck and is one way they contribute to the household. There for we do not reward good grades because that is what you are supposed to get. Now bad ones get some punishment (call it disciplinary action or corrective action like at work) Nothing like being grounded or anything unless they cut school and did not even try. More like no TV or reduced TV during the week the same for computer etc so that they can focus on school. You need to cut back on the extras and focus on your many job which is school. That includes sports and other extrcirculat
I reward specific marks that I know were worked hard for. Our daughter was never good at math and if she got over 70% we knew she worked hard at it and got a treat for it. However, the boys both need to get a least an 80-85% in math before they got a treat because they were good at it and a 70% just showed laziness on their part.
Not everyone is going to be good at everything but everyone should do their best at everything.
I try to reward extra effort, at genuine attempts to improve more than the mark itself.
And yes they would be in trouble if they got a crappy mark in something I knew they were good at.
I check my son's grades weekly online so I am not surprised when report cards come. We do not reward for good grades, they are expected in my house. The worst grade my son has ever received was a C and he was told that we expected him to do better but he was not disciplined.
I don't give her money, but I buy a small gift, like last year she got a tiny book about fairies.
So far her report cards have not disappointed. I keep an eye on how her school work is going throughout the term and keep in touch with her teacher, so I'd like to hope I would catch it if something was amiss, before it got out of hand.
Positive reinforcement is most effective. When I didn't get praised for my good grades but diciplined for other things my grades dropped.
Since you get paid money in the real world for hard work, I think money is a good way to reward them. for example, $10 for every A, $5, for every B, nothing for C, Lose $5 for a D, and Lose $10 for an F and if they are in the Negative, most certainly make them work it off with chores. That's how things kind of go in the work world.
I reward. Do a minimum reward and based on the age. I mean, dont spend four hundred dollars at disneyland to a eight yr. old. But just token of appreciation. A movie, or a toy under twenty or thirty bucks. Take him/her somewhere they have been wanting to go that is cost friendly. I stress cost friendly because it is something they are expected to do, but appreciated when done. Its the simple things that mean alot.
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Good report cards can lead to potential scholarships. That itself is a reward. Kids should not get paid for doing well in school. If you start, they'll stop because they'll want more money.
A good grade is its own reward. Getting rewarded for something that is expected of you can lead you to want rewards for everything - and make you resentful when there is no reward given. So, yes, it's the minimum expectation.
Bad grades. Well, if the child is engaging in activities that distract them from their studies, then those activities need to be taken under control. Taking away privileges is a good way to get the child to understand that poor work performance can lead to more than just bad grades. Imagine someone only half-heartedly doing their job: he/she will be censured, if not fired. Teaching bad consequences come when work is neglected is therefore a healthy thing. However, if the child is really trying his/her best, then it's time to find extra help through a tutor or a doctor (for a learning disability).
We plan on "rewarding" good grades to reinforce that we expect that of them. By reward, I mean things like a special supper or an extra privilege. Not so much material rewards.
I will not discipline for bad report cards UNLESS it is because they simply were not giving it any effort. As long as they are doing their best and their best happens to earn them a D, then at least they are trying. I will however hire a tutor for them if that's the case.
I think good grades should be recognized, not rewarded. Getting an "A" and the feeling of pride they (should) have is the reward for their hard work. A "good job" and going out for pizza is proper recognition. The goal, especially when it comes to school, should be internal motivation, not external motivation.
I would discipline for bad grades if they came from not doing homework, not studying, not trying, etc.
My parents belief and mine is that school is their job and the report card their paycheck and is one way they contribute to the household. There for we do not reward good grades because that is what you are supposed to get. Now bad ones get some punishment (call it disciplinary action or corrective action like at work) Nothing like being grounded or anything unless they cut school and did not even try. More like no TV or reduced TV during the week the same for computer etc so that they can focus on school. You need to cut back on the extras and focus on your many job which is school. That includes sports and other extrcirculat
I reward specific marks that I know were worked hard for. Our daughter was never good at math and if she got over 70% we knew she worked hard at it and got a treat for it. However, the boys both need to get a least an 80-85% in math before they got a treat because they were good at it and a 70% just showed laziness on their part.
Not everyone is going to be good at everything but everyone should do their best at everything.
I try to reward extra effort, at genuine attempts to improve more than the mark itself.
And yes they would be in trouble if they got a crappy mark in something I knew they were good at.
I check my son's grades weekly online so I am not surprised when report cards come. We do not reward for good grades, they are expected in my house. The worst grade my son has ever received was a C and he was told that we expected him to do better but he was not disciplined.
I don't give her money, but I buy a small gift, like last year she got a tiny book about fairies.
So far her report cards have not disappointed. I keep an eye on how her school work is going throughout the term and keep in touch with her teacher, so I'd like to hope I would catch it if something was amiss, before it got out of hand.
Positive reinforcement is most effective. When I didn't get praised for my good grades but diciplined for other things my grades dropped.
Since you get paid money in the real world for hard work, I think money is a good way to reward them. for example, $10 for every A, $5, for every B, nothing for C, Lose $5 for a D, and Lose $10 for an F and if they are in the Negative, most certainly make them work it off with chores. That's how things kind of go in the work world.
I reward. Do a minimum reward and based on the age. I mean, dont spend four hundred dollars at disneyland to a eight yr. old. But just token of appreciation. A movie, or a toy under twenty or thirty bucks. Take him/her somewhere they have been wanting to go that is cost friendly. I stress cost friendly because it is something they are expected to do, but appreciated when done. Its the simple things that mean alot.