VERY embarrassing sex problem....?
i recently became sexually active with my bf...or well tried to...but for some reason he couldnt get it in....we tried a few times now and its getting frustrating...is something wrong?
i recently became sexually active with my bf...or well tried to...but for some reason he couldnt get it in....we tried a few times now and its getting frustrating...is something wrong?
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I suggest he and you use fingers first to break the hymen.
Hiya,
There's no need to be embarrassed at all about this, its quite a common problem. It will be because you are nervous and because you have most probably built it up into a big issue in your head. I very much doubt its a physical thing, it will be a psychological thing. Some people (including me at one point) are a little bit squeamish and fear that it will hurt making it difficult for you to be relaxed and for the sex to actually happen. try to relax yourself before hand by listening to music, having a glass of wine to relax you or having a warm bath. also make sure you dont put a time limit on it as it will happen eventually, dont get yourself into a panic over it. also you could try some lube. Im sure your boyfriend is very understanding and will wait as long as it takes which wont even be too long i doubt. Dont worry about it and good luck!
Three guesses.
I presume he was wearing a condom. Some boys have problems the first time they wear a condom in that their penis loses some of its erection. You really need to have a full erection to successfully penetrate a woman (especially one who has not had much sexual experience see below). Make sure he is really hard when he tries and if he continues to have problems try putting the condom on for him or arousing him while he does. Nipples and testicles are the best places to do this :P
ALternatively (or in combination with the first problem) if you have not had sex before it is likely that you are not relaxing "down there". It's not an easy thing to do (I'm told) and can make sex for the first time difficult. Get him to finger you a bit before sex (first with one finger then two) just to get you used to the sensation. Then when it comes time to have sex, try to relax as he penetrates you and it might make things easier.
Finally, In missionary position, the penis does not naturally go into the right place, it take a bit of shuffling. It can sometimes help for you to guide his penis with your hand into your vagina. Tell him not to thrust and just go where you put him and slowly put him into you. Once he is all the way in, then he can start doing his thing.
sex isn't easy, but hte best thing you can do is talk to him about what he is doing. I know it isn't that sexy, but you really need to work out what you are doing before you can start doing it naturally.
the challenge to do is to verify WHY he's impotent. maximum frequently, impotency has an underlying actual challenge,. like diabetes, extreme blood rigidity, extreme ldl cholesterol, even maximum cancers. ALL of those are deadly. So insist which you husband bypass to the well being care expert and have an entire actual -- alongside with all mandatory blood tests. He would not could say something to the well being care expert touching directly to the "different issues". with any luck, some thing significant will take place in the actual, some thing which would be taken care of. simply by fact the treatment keeps, the "challenge" would subside. yet there remains the potential for a psychological challenge, like melancholy. those issues is additionally taken care of, however the will a psychological well being expert, no longer an MD. it is commonplace for adult adult males to experience embarrassment approximately those issues. i propose, maximum adult adult males define themselves with the aid of "that", and whilst it is going away there's a deep experience of :loss of self". So I comprehend his hesitancy. yet I additionally comprehend that a actual guy WILL guard those issues. certainly one of his jobs as a husband is to maintain you chuffed, and it particularly is clean that he's not any longer doing so. So he desires to be a guy, swallow his satisfaction, walk into the well being care expert and communicate this challenge. IOn the different hand, a annoyed spouse who's "impatient" would be as emasculating simply by fact the actual issues themselves. while you're no longer relatively affected person, awareness, and loving, it basically makes that challenge worse. so which you have GOTY to generate a multitude of persistence. yet get him to a doctor for the actual first, and desire some thing treatable exhibits up.
If it was your first time, you were probably veryyyy tight. You probably have to help him. Make sure he's hard, grip his "thing" with your hand, and guide it in. I know you're not experienced, but you know where you're trying to put it lol
Guide it partway in, relax and let him know it's in, and he can figure it out from there 
It might hurt a little, but just try to relax as much as possible...like I said, it might hurt a little bit at first, but the calmer and more relaxed you are, the less it will hurt...and after he puts it in a few times, it probably won't hurt at all unless he's really big. If it's hurting you, don't be ashamed to ask him to stop. Good luck, and I hope the guy you lose your virginity to isn't as much of a jerk as the guy I lost mine to lol.
Have fun before you have sex, your probably to dry and nervous so your tensing which means he is having trouble trying to get it it, Get him too finger you and kiss you and touch him down below till you get to the point where you cant wait no more. You need to be sexually turned on and very wet, get him to lick you out if he is ok with it, omg it feels lovely. Best Wishes Ellie.x
You're nervous and need to relax.
And you might need a bit of a longer foreplay session.
Or maybe you just aren't ready. Perhaps you could consider waiting awhile longer.
No nothing is wrong.It just happens sometimes.Your probs just to tight LOL.
may be hes not doing somethlng right ..nerer seen a girl too tight that nothing would fit..keep trying it will go ..
no its natural do again with musterd oil.