Mom Has No Money? Dad Left Mom?
My dad cheated on my mom and left her to be with someone half his age recently. My mom is 55 years old. Her last job was before I was born which was a flight attendant which she has been doing since she graduated high school. She has not worked for over 30 years. Mom has been a stay at home mom/housewife ever since. Since dad left mom, he didn't leave her anything. He closed all the credit cards and bank accounts so she doesn't have any access to anything. I'm an only child and I live with my boyfriend. My boyfriend is not comfortable with my mom moving in with us because we live in a small apartment. Is there any government assistance programs in the US for people her age because she can not support herself?
She has a hard time finding a job because of her age and her resume is not up to date.
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I am so sorry to hear that that happened to your mom, but oh yes there is a lot of help available to her. it is going to take some leg work but it is worth it. She first should speak to someone at your local Department of Social Services and talk to someone about housing and temporary assistance and possibly food stamps...just until she can get a better handle on her current situation. She should file for spousal support in court as her lifestyle for the past 30 years has been stay at home mother and caregiver to her husband. she will be entitled to half of your fathers pension if he has one as well as half of his social security. I know I am making this look like I an helping you to screw your dad...but I am not. the information I am giving you is strictly what one person, man or woman may be entitled to in the same situation. Catholic Charities is also a very good resource for her. Best wishes and be well.
Tell your mom to go speak with an attorney...he can close out everything and the judge will turn around and tell him to hand 1/2 of it back...A good attorney would have explained this to your mother, filed the papers and taken care of it by now.
She'd likely be able to receive some spousal support while she works on the job...
Tell her to get a job. Do you think she's the only one? She knows this. I can't blame your man for not wanting her with him in his place. Why should he take care of her? Your mom can get off of her lazy butt and find a job and roommate. We all have to work.
You can't get welfare for being lazy. 30 years and never worked? LAZY MOM. I can see why your dad finally left. You don't know the whole story.
She has been skimming off the grocery and other household expenses for decades and has more money stashed than you will ever know.