Is missing a funeral disrespectful?
My stepdads funeral is coming up in North Carolina but I dont live out there anymore and the only way I can get there is catching a plane. I'm over $100 short for a round trip ticket. My next paycheck isn't until a week from now. Should I tell my family I can't make it or what can I do? Any advice helps. Thanks. God bless.
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B.b, first, see if the airline has a rate for bereavement; some due. Second, yes, tell your family if you are too financially strapped for the trip. That is honesty. It is not disrespectful to miss the funeral if you cannot get there, but someone might assist you financially to have you there. Sorry for your loss.
If money really is the only thing holding you back from attending the funeral, then perhaps you can borrow money from a family member or a friend and pay them back with part of your next pay check or two.
But, if you don't want to go, then don't. The ritual of funerals is for people to gather and get closure. The deceased person will never hold the fact that you did not attend their funeral against you!!!!
ask your family to help you pay for the ticket, they might just do that or you could take the bus
Funerals are over rated and not as important as people make them out to be.
People get over dramatic and make big deal over nothing.
Missing it is not big deal unless its super important to you or something
if not don't worry about it.
If you want to go, ask family or friends to borrow money and then pay them back. Is right to assume you don't have a credit card which you can charge the plane ticket?
When you speak with your family, tell them your situation.
If you can't get there - then it's unfortunate, but the world will go on.
You can try standby to see if there are any empty seats and the airline is trying to fill it up so you can get the seat for cheap.
Have you tried greyhound or taking the bus, depending on how away you live. I took a bus cross country to attend my godfather’s funeral (wasn’t close to him but out of respect to my godmother). 5 days but the bus started in Missouri, then went to Kansas, Oklahoma, then all the way to Texas, then back up north to Arizona, Nevada, before arriving in California. Probably could have made in in 4 days max if it was a direct route.
I personally don’t think it’s disrespectful to miss a funeral especially if you’re not close to that person. I didn’t attend my grandmothers (both) funerals because I wasn’t close to either of them.
if it is your stepdad ideally you should be there. Especially if he has been an important part in your life. Is there any way you could lend some money from a friend or a family member , or put it on your credit card ? Try to explain the situation to your mother or brother/ sister/ Aunty . I am sure someone would be prepared to help you out. If that doesn't work could you speak with your boss and ask for 100.00 payment ahead and ask if you could pay it of in 4 different payments when you get your salary ? I really hope you can go because in the end , you forget about money but you never forget that you weren't at your fathers funeral.
On the face of it.... No it is not disrespectful
if you let your family know the circumstances they will probably understand
but.... then again..... familes are complex and what is obviously logical to someone outside the family can still cause deep hurt and resentment to members within