Girls: Do you believe opposites attract?
Do you believe in the mantra "opposites attract"? I ask because I've recently fallen for this girl I work with, who is quite different from myself. I'm a fairly reserved person, a college student who dresses in bright colors and v-necks, smiles all the time and am very nice. I don't smoke, drink, do drugs, cuss very often or anything under that category. You could say I'm a typical "good" guy. My problem is that I'm attracted to "free-spirited" girls. The kind of girls that have a goofy sense of humor, understand meme references, say whatever they feel, have a unique/quirky look and generally just be themselves. I think these kind of girls make me feel alive or something, make me come out of my shell a bit. This girl I'm crushing on is a high school senior, a Harvard admit, hyper-intelligent, has an amazing sense of humor, but she takes drugs on occasion, smokes, and is somewhat of a "rebel." Oh and she also has a boyfriend who is in jail. I was about to ask her out the other day when she told me that, and it felt like my whole universe almost caved in. I couldn't believe someone so perfect was dating a jailbird. I guess what I'm getting at is that I feel like I shouldn't be attracted to the girls that I am, but I can't help it. I also can't gain their attraction because of my style and personality type. The kind of girls I like are into the rebels. I've had many crushes on good girls as well, but they are always as shy and reserved as myself. I feel like I need an opposite to complete my yin-yang, so to speak. So.....sorry about the rant. Getting back to original question, do you think opposites attract, what kind of people are you attracted to and do you change yourself for someone you think would only like you if you changed in said way? Thanks!
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I am almost exactly the same as you. I also dress in bright colors, have never tried drugs or alcohol, and have never sworn before. I'm attracted to intelligent yet silly girls (like myself). I do like shy girls more than outgoing girls. I also do not care much about appearances (I don't look for sexual relationships so I don't care about their body).
The opposite of me would be a stupid, outgoing, serious (doesn't understand my humor) girl. I would never be attracted to a girl like that.
I do not think that opposite personalities attract. Opposite people can be physically attracted but that's where it stops, at the physical level, in my opinion.
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I think it's true that opposites can attract. I, myself, would rather have a man that's a bit talkative and has an easy time being social or starting a conversation since I feel it would help me come out of my shell more. I tried dating a guy that was shy like me and it didn't end very well. Though, I think it's good to have some common ground as well. If you don't have some similar interests or views, there's really nothing to talk about.
I think a girl like that would only disappoint you. I am engaged to a man who is like me in so many ways, so even though opposites attract, they don't always work out.
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according to scientific lit, the idea that opposites attract is actually invalid. rather, likes attract. i dont quite remember the specific study, but you can google it.
quit complaining about urself.. u sound like a b i t c h . . .
there's a reason u like these kind of girls.. because they're more of a man than you are.. mann up and improve YOUR OWN life.. stop depending on a girl to complete you... seriously, u sound like a pansy
(the type of guy who would lose his hot gf to me.. assuming u managed to snatch one.. haha)
Well, I believe that it can work but there has to be some kind of link between us.
hints the positive and negative side of a magnet so yaa