Self Esteem Issues.?
Okay heres the problemm.
A lot of people call me pretty. And well. I certainly dont believe them. People tell me im fishing for attention. But when I look in the mirror, I see NOTHING pretty about me. I wear glasses. And now, im starting to think I may look better without them. But Im scared of what people will say. People call me ugly at school ( mainly guys ) and well it crushes me.. alot.
Heres a pic..
http://a847.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/65/l...
i really dont think I look like this much. Im alot whiter, and i have really ugly pink lips.
anyone have anything to boost my self esteem? im just so down, about this.
please no. " you should care what other people think" because I do.
thanks.
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Its good that you care what other people think about you. We wouldn't want to go around looking like trash eh? I think most people believe that they themselves are not attractive. You are constantly looking at the same thing (yourself) all the time. Thats like eating the same food all the time for however long you've lived. Plus, you get the added benefit of knowing where all your blemishes are.
Honestly, being a guy there can be a few things I think you can do to improve on. Don't wear baggy clothes to school. Your probably just wearing the sweat shirt because your at home but if you wear stuff that hides yourself it makes you look worse. Go to like American Eagle, pick out some stuff, and ask what the customer service people think about it. Make sure it fits PERFECT too. Don't buy it if it looks really cool but its 1 size too big. The coolness goes way if it doesn't fit right. I suggest a white polo shirt with a pink undershirt. Ditch the glasses and get contacts. They are so much better than wearing glasses 24/7. Its worth the price. I can't tell if your hair is black or brown but its its brown get some nice highlights. Nothing too extreme like bleach. Just ask the hairstylist what she things will go good with your hair color.
Oh yea, top it off with some light pink lip gloss.
I've been around a while and have been to many places and have seen a lot of people and you are not ugly. From what I can tell in the picture, you have great facial structure. The glasses are hiding your eyes a bit, but the frames don't look bad. As for the guys calling you ugly...they don't grow up until they're about 35 if you're lucky, so you can't really worry about what they are saying. I'm sorry they are crushing you.
i honestly thought you would be some ugly person looking for attention, but when i clicked the link the first thing i said was absolutely gorgeous!. you should jsut keep you head high. everyone is beautiful in their own way. others may just be jelous. but you, are def pretty so dont worry. this may be a little odd lol but on mtvs made the coach made the girl look in a mirror and say that shes beautiful anf stuff like that and it helped her, so maybe you should try too
good luck
Hey girl!
Ok, before I dive in, I just have one question for you: why do you believe the negative things that people tell you and not the positive ones? Like you said yourself, a lot of people call you pretty, but you choose to listen to those who call you ugly...Well, whatever your reasons, I think if you don't feel pretty on the inside, it won't show on the outside. Be confident and feel sexy- trust me, it'll be there for the whole world to notice. I know what it's like to be called ugly- someone once said that I looked like a "piece of sh*t" and only because I was suffering from acne, didn't wear slutty clothes, and didn't believe in makeup since that would only further damage my skin. And naturally I felt awful- I came home and instantly my self-image transformed from an average looking girl to someone butt ugly. And I told my friends that and they helped me realize once again that I wasn't ugly at all, and will you believe me when I tell you I have random guys checking me out and trying to get friendly (please don't think I'm bragging or anything- I'm trying to prove a point), and not to mention all my other guy friends wanting to be more than just friends? You have a clear beautiful complexion going for you and pink lips are healthy (not to mention totally in for this season)! Take off those glasses and wear contacts. Line those beautiful eyes with eyeliner (may I suggest L'Oreal HiP cream eyeliner in eggplant?) and wear a goldish/pink/purple eyeshadow- whichever color you feel comfortable wearing, or wear all three for more drama! Incorporate a bronzer and sweep lightly all over to give yourself that hot tan look (but not too much or you'll look like the orange monster of doom...lol). Add a very light amount of blush to give your skin a healthy boost and to soften the harsh effect of bronzer. I think plums would work best for you- try Maybelline's dream mousse blush in soft plum. Add a clear gloss to your lips- show off that healthy pink that everyone tries to achieve through countless makeup products. Curl your hair in loose waves; wear skinny jeans (or wide leg, whichever suits you); pair it up with a lacy tank and polo on top; wear a few bracelets; slip on some strappy heels or cute flats; spritz on a sexy perfume, and you're ready to go! Feel fierce, look fierce! Walk around with a new attitude: Screw you. And watch the boys drop dead. Hope this helps
I totally feel the same way as you girl. I have a lot of self esteem issues too. I'm the person that cares what others think of me. I'm very conscious of people who look at me and I always think about what they think of me. It sucks because it makes me feel bad when I keep thinking that they think I'm ugly or something negative. I hate it when people look at me too. I never think of myself pretty because I always feel that others always look better than me. I've felt this way for a long time, but I slowly broke out of this low self esteem problem by believing that everyone has a unique look to themselves and if I felt more confident, I would look prettier.
Anyway, I think you look alright in that picture.
I think you're very cute. And the glasses look good. Whats ugly about nice healthy pink lips though?
Honey you are perfect the way God made you. Don't ever let people how you feel or view yourself. Those are little boys at your school who are trying to fit in with everybody else. Trust me they are putting you down to build themselves up immature. Look in the mirror and tell your self I love me. Listen to the good things people say to you not the negative.Hope this lifts you up.
actually i do think you're really pretty and if you think you look better without glasses try contacts, i have them cause well, i just didn't think i looked very good in my glasses. but anyway the people who call you ugly are either jelouse or possibly blind so even if it hurts try not to think too much of it. yeah but really, try not to worry about it cause you really are pretty.
You are beautiful.. but the glasses are too much for your face. I would suggest contacts. I would also suggest wearing figure-flattering clothing, not slutty clothing lol, just maybe try a fitted tank top or v-neck tee and some cute jeans.
You are so pretty! you look so great in glasses they work great on your face! Boost your self esteem with confidence