how do i deal with a 17yr who is disrespectful?
basically im 19, my sister is 17, lately she has been disrespectful to my parents and me, i talk to her calmly and ask her why but she says because we don't respect her, my mother is getting tired of and kinda giving up and my father is about to lose it, and is threatning to leave because he cant handle her anymore. my sister when ever we ask her to do something all she does is talk back and says she does alot, when actually she does not. i help out my family more than she does and gives a "i dont care attitude" lately all she saying is that she cant wait for college thinking its going to be easy so that she can do what ever she wants. ive given her advice and ive talked to her and she dosent want to listen she just wants to do what ever she wants, when my father was yelling at her one time and we were protecting her all she did was smile and when ever i yell at her and show her i do more than she does she just smiles and it aggravates me. she dosent cook or clean or do anything around the house, my mom just got surgery and she dosent seem to care about anyone but herself, she sometimes brings back my past errors that ive done to hurt me and the problems i had with my father but those are resolved and i learned from them. when we call her she yells, and wen shes on the phone with one of her friends she basically wants to automatically run out and do what they did, and says that they are living life, as in partying drinking and smoking weed. my fam is running out of options and we dont know what to do, her attitude is aggravating everyone.
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im 17 and was like this a while back the best thing to do is to tell your family to cut all ties, kick her out and tell her if she wants to act like an adult she will have to live like an adult. it may seem harsh and hard but trust me she will come running back with a new mind on her.
Unfortunately it seems to me that there isn't much left to do, before you know it, she'll be 18 and out of there. She's going to have to find out, and she will, the hard way of what is meaningful in a person's life. At first I thought to tell you to sit down with her, and have a mature talk with her, but it's already done, and failed, simply because she has all the symptoms and behavior of someone who is on drugs. If all of you turn your back to her, maybe, a big maybe, she will realize in time that she's wrong. She just doesn't know what the real world is all about.
Sorry for you and your family, hopefully the three of you hang in there and remain a family until she moves out!
i actually agree with megan
im 18 and used to be very rebel-like
one day i didnt get along with my parents and i basically left/got kicked out of the house
after about a week of living at my friends house i really got tried of fending for myself and really learned to appreciate my parents much more.
it really seems like your family is desperate and i would recommend her trying to live on her own, so she knows what it feels like
i agree with megan. its sound harsh but it\s really going to help her. . don't help her with financial needs or rides to here and there. do not negotiate with her.take away Special privileges and keep reminding her she on her own until she learn how to respect her parents and do as they say if she wants to do it her way let her find a way to make every thing happen on her own.then shell appreciate them more
Ever heard of the rebellious teen?