How do i change cliques?
OK, my situation is; im in the most hated/ made fun of clique, in school. Many people have told me, that im very pretty and dont belong in the group, but the thing is i dont know how to become "popular" and just jump from group to group. What on earth am i supposed to do?? I dont wanna hang out with them anymore, but i feel so trapped!! Is there still hope for my reputation?? Please help!!
Update:look, i never said to be more popular!! its like, their not even my friends anymore, all they talk about is anime, and ive moved on. im not interested in what they talk about, none the less know what they talk about.
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Not trying to be rude, but that's kind of selfish of you to change friends in an attempt to become friends with a bunch of mean girls who make fun of the people who are there for you. If you love your friends and have a special bond, why on earth would you want to ditch them for people who aren't nice? Makes no sense to me. If the "popular kids" wanted to be friends with you, then they would have befriended you a long time ago. I think you need to think about that...
I have the same problem as well. My clique or group only talks about anime and anti-religious topics and I'm sick of it because I don't like anime and I have religious beliefs which is annoying and awkward when the talk about religion. . I'm currently sitting with other people during lunch, homeroom, and walking different routes to my locker. Even though I have to sit next to them during class I don't talk to them really. I just do my work and avoid them. My new clique/ group understands me and relates to me. I am getting to the point where I know who my real friends are and I feel like I've found them in my new friend group.
So i'm guessing that your in what middle school? First of all do you like the people in your clique? Or you just wanna be in a group just to be 'popular'. Now now, don't get your hopes up just because people think your 'pretty'. beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, looks don't MATTER. You wanna become popular? Does it really matter to be popular or not? In high school it won't matter anyways. So you wanna ditch this group and go to another, then ditch that group for another, then it goes on& on? You don't wanna hang with them anymoe just because there the "most hated, and made fun of clique", that's why or your tired. ask yourself. how would you feel trapped because, i think you are trying to make yourself trapped because you wanna be 'popular'. now, don't be like "wtf" when you read this because i think it's true. how would you like it, if the "clique" your gonna go to finds out that your going to jump from group to group? Probably they won't 'hang with you'. don't try to hard just to be popular. brush of what the other people are saying that they're the "most hated/made fun of group. listen, do you like them or just wanna be popular? If you do, i guess good luck in high school&college tryna' be 'popular'.
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Okay well, if you don't wanna hang out with them because your not interested in what tthey're talking about(anime) just tell them how you feel, or tell them to talk about something else, unless if they don't want to you can make new friends.
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Is your reason for not wanting to hang out with them because you no longer have anything in common or is it due to their lack of popularity? If these people are really your friends, I wouldn't ditch them. In the end, you could lose good friends for ones which will stab you in the back, or worse. If you no longer enjoy hanging out with your current friends, try making subtle changes (for instance, sit somewhere else for lunch or take a different route down the hallway).
That's a good question, I was wondering the same thing myself