Sister in law has no respect??
A while back I had her kids stay at my house I took them back and they feel asleep in my car wrapped in a blanket that was my grandma's I just said I would get it back whenever. I asked her for it last week and she informed me that she threw it out because it was outside wet and moldy ripped up!!! Well it turned out she lied she didn't through the blanket out I got it back, although in rough shape I got it back. Plus her husband is a drunk and in her eyes he can do no wrong no matter what she is s stay at home mom who's house is a discrace her kids have no dressers and get this when her brother is in town her oldest kid has to sleep on the couch so he can use her bed to have sex with whoever he brings to the house!!
She is always bragging to me how much money her husband makes but when her kids want to come and stay with me it is only a 40 min drive she has no money for gas
I have lost all respect for her and do not want to ever look or speak to her again is that totally wrong
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Karma can be a funny thing, so don't be surprised when you find out she is really down and out on her luck. Her life at home doesn't sound like one I would envy and if her husband is really a drunk, then it doesn't matter how much he makes because he spends it on booze.
She's just trying to get a rise out of you to feel better about herself (my guess). Don't give her the luxury of upsetting you.
It is called BOUNDARIES. If your kids/her kids love her/you/each other, etc. then try to maintain a relationship with restrictions. Don't go to her house. Don't let her borrow anything unless you can deal with having it trashed. Offer to pick her kids up to stay with you only when you have the money to drive them if she doesn't. Or, do an activity away from both of your houses, like a day at an amusement park, where you can all still be together but there are no "my turf/your turf" wars going on. If she asks why your kids can't come to her house, tell her that you don't want to burden her with having all of those children underfoot. That is a lot nicer than saying you are a slob, your husband is a drunk and bad example, and your brother is a pervert.
Putting up boundaries doesn't mean you are self-centered. it means you are self-protective. You can't change other people nor should you try to. Instead, change the way YOU react to them.
I dont know about never speaking to her but I wouldnt trust her with anything. Make sure your kids never spend the night at her house with all that crap going on there. But her kids could benefit from seeing a good example of family life at your house. Dont punish them because their parents have no values. If you can get them to spend the night sometimes it might be good for them as long as they arent a bad influence on your own kids.
guess what about haft of America has the same in-laws as you . My husband was dying back in 02 i called them down to see him one last time and his sis would get drunk with friends so i could not go to work she told me she did not come here to watch my kids while i left him to die b**** it's life don't be the same way just set some rules down first and get all things back before they go home.
She sounds like a loser. Stay away from her, worry about your own life. Spending time being mad about an idiot isn't worth it. If you really care about her kids, go pick them up yourself and then take them home. Then you save yourself some grief.
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Good Luck and stay calm. Have peace and mostly MERCY, you can't win bees with vinegar only with honey.
Everybody has someone like that in there family. I do. Just get used to it.
You make me feel better about my life. I can think "hey, at least I have a spine"Thanks for being you
Life is too short, and this is too much drama.