Coming out to my sister via email?
I've come out to 3 very close friends and I want to tell my family. My sister lives in England (Im in Ireland) and Im close with her and Im pretty sure she'll be ok with it. But could I tell her through email? Is it not personal enough? Should I do it in person?
Update:I'd say the thought would have crossed her mind. Im quite close with her and want my family in general to know. But I think it best to start with her.
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Coming out is really about your own comfort zone. It can be a hard time in your life.
If you are comfortable with email...do that.
Eventually when you see her again you can discuss the email....but come out in a way that is good for you.
I agree with everyone else about doing it over the phone, if that's possible. If not, then e-mail will have to do. Personally, I think you should e-mail first with something like "Hey, I want to talk to you about something. Let me know when would be best to call you!" instead of just bringing it all out on the phone.
Best of luck, however! You know your sister better than any of us do, so I'm sure you'll know exactly how to go about it the right way whether you realize it or not
How about emailing her, giving her a little time to digest the news, then a phone call? You could ask in the email when would be a good time to call her, maybe.
However you do it is fine, it's your business so do whatever feels most comfortable. One advantage of doing it by phone rather than email though is that you wouldn't have to wait out that long, nervous pause between clicking "send" and getting a response...
Do you think she might have guessed already?
Well I helped a few friends come out and they said that the best way to do it is in person. But you are in different countries lol, that makes it kind of hard. If anything try to do it over the phone. That is better than e-mail. The communication key is pretty much the vocal expressions.
Not impersonal enough? I'd say it's downright cold.
If you can't tell her in person, tell her over the phone. Web cam would help.
The purpose of coming out is to prove you are not a coward. Doing it by e-mail kinda defeats the purpose, doesn't it?
Good luck
Its best if you meet her and tell her, but if not you can email her as I believe an email will not inhibit you as to exactly what you want to say or explain. You can send it and then ring her, and make her read it whilst your on the phone, so its like your there with her.
I still say go meet her!! Its the best way!
I mean the best way is always in person, but I have a gay brother and a gay sister and they both wrote me a letter. It was simple and to the point but also very personal. I think that would be best way
In person is always better and more respectful, but if you can't do it in person because of distance I would try calling. Having a conversation is better than email. If you can't call her then emailing would be ok, but explain to her why you are emailing instead of calling or talking in person.
Come out however you feel comfortable. After all, it's your business to disclose. You don't have to do it any specific way. If your sister loves you and cares for you, she'll be happy for you. No matter how you tell her.
I would do it in person, if possible. But if not, i bet you know what to say and if not, the words will come to you in time. It also depends on how close you are, you know her better than all of us. But if I were you, i would try to do it in person, she might appreciate it too.