How do I convince my dad?
So I was given a choice to make..
Next weekend is my baseball grand final AND also a very important go karting race that I need to compete in. I told my baseball coach that karting was on the same day as our final, and he said that I could make my decision and that he couldn't control what choice I made. I chose karting and told my dad that was what my decision was, he wasn't happy with my decision so he's forcing me to go to baseball. I had a massive fight with him yesterday saying how I don't enjoy baseball and how no one there likes me, and that our grand final, im on the bench for over half of the game. Karting, I love, i have friends there and I actually come a decent placing. How can I convince him to let me race instead of wasting a whole Saturday sitting on the bench at baseball?
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work good job.
there maybe reasons why your dad wants you to go to the baseball game that you haven't thought of. Baseball is a team sport. Have you made a commitment to be to the games to support and participate and now you are trying to back out? Your dad wants may want you to stick to your commitments and learn the lessons of sportsmanship. Team sports involve a maturity that other sports don't require. You probably much prefer carting but have you made a commitment to a team for carting? Maybe you should discuss the reason why your dad is making this decision. If you can understand where he is coming from it would strengthen your relationship with your dad and help you to come to a decision together. He should make sure you have some kind of ownership of this decision so that you will be able to do your best in whatever sport you do. The authoritarian method of raising kids is linked to all sorts of terrible behavioral problems and so he should never be making decisions for you without letting you understand the issues behind the decisions and letting you participate in the outcome so you can have ownership and a since of empowerment. Tell him that the authoritarian method is emotional abuse. He needs to stop that. A book called 'boundaries' for kids by dr henry cloud maybe a good one for you to read. A book called 'secrets of your family tree' by the same author might be a good one for your dad to read.
best wishes.
He cant force you. Tell him that your heart is in karting and not in baseball.