For me it was divorce. I made my decision when during therapy he said there would always be other people before me like parents, brothers, and friends. Sad. Feeling much better now after 4 years though
I am currently considering Divorce right now. My husband of 22 years has been laid off from work a lot during the past 13 years. The past 3 years has been the longest consecutive period of unemployment.
He tried nursing school (paid for by the government), but during the 3 sessions, he gave up and quit studying and of course, failed out. Even the dean of nursing tried to get him to come back and repeat the 3rd session. He only had that and the 4th session before he would have graduated. So now, he has been out of unemployment for almost 9 months. He spends most of his day, sleeping and watching tv and very little time looking for work. We had a new house build just 3 years ago and have a large mortgage payment, along with a daughter in college and a son that is a senior in high school. Needless to say, I am working 70-80 hours per week, to keep up afloat. He only wants a high paying job, minimum wage is beneath him, but he has always been a laborer in a factory. And being the maid, is also beneath him, and doesn't make him feel like a man, but it was ok when I helped mow our 4 acre yard. I am fed up with providing for him without him doing much to help support our family and I don't just mean financially. I am still expected to do the majority of house work and food prep. He does some laundry, when he feels like it and takes the trash out, when he feels like it....Enough is enough....He stopped being my partner a long time ago!!!
I am in my second marriage. True, I think that he puts other things before me--children (and grandchldren) from the first marriage, his siblings, and sports. But I just ask myself--would I be happier with him or without him. My answer usually is that I would rather have him than nothing at all. I just try to be more independent. I know he loves me, but I cannot monopolize him. If push came to shove, I am pretty sure that he would be there for me. I think he really loves me--just not to the exclusion of everything else.
Divorce, my second her third... Just too much, she never smiled, she was cold in the bedroom, tight with every penny, never initiated sex, cold as a fish, always grumpy. Enough....!
I rather be by myself than miserable with a wife...!
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For me it was divorce. I made my decision when during therapy he said there would always be other people before me like parents, brothers, and friends. Sad. Feeling much better now after 4 years though
I am currently considering Divorce right now. My husband of 22 years has been laid off from work a lot during the past 13 years. The past 3 years has been the longest consecutive period of unemployment.
He tried nursing school (paid for by the government), but during the 3 sessions, he gave up and quit studying and of course, failed out. Even the dean of nursing tried to get him to come back and repeat the 3rd session. He only had that and the 4th session before he would have graduated. So now, he has been out of unemployment for almost 9 months. He spends most of his day, sleeping and watching tv and very little time looking for work. We had a new house build just 3 years ago and have a large mortgage payment, along with a daughter in college and a son that is a senior in high school. Needless to say, I am working 70-80 hours per week, to keep up afloat. He only wants a high paying job, minimum wage is beneath him, but he has always been a laborer in a factory. And being the maid, is also beneath him, and doesn't make him feel like a man, but it was ok when I helped mow our 4 acre yard. I am fed up with providing for him without him doing much to help support our family and I don't just mean financially. I am still expected to do the majority of house work and food prep. He does some laundry, when he feels like it and takes the trash out, when he feels like it....Enough is enough....He stopped being my partner a long time ago!!!
I am in my second marriage. True, I think that he puts other things before me--children (and grandchldren) from the first marriage, his siblings, and sports. But I just ask myself--would I be happier with him or without him. My answer usually is that I would rather have him than nothing at all. I just try to be more independent. I know he loves me, but I cannot monopolize him. If push came to shove, I am pretty sure that he would be there for me. I think he really loves me--just not to the exclusion of everything else.
So I guess I have never said "enough" yet anyhow.
Divorce, my second her third... Just too much, she never smiled, she was cold in the bedroom, tight with every penny, never initiated sex, cold as a fish, always grumpy. Enough....!
I rather be by myself than miserable with a wife...!