How do I reject a coworker?
I've been working with this coworker for three years now, and for the past year or so, he's had a huge crush on me. The problem is that I don't come close to feeling the same way, and would rather just be friendly acquaintances (or less!).
He follows me around at different assignments, doesn't get that I want my personal space (he gets closer, I back away, he closes in again), doesn't get that I always turn him down to hang out alone after hours, and is always asking my girlfriends about me. And yet, he's never directly asked me out or said he likes me.
How do I get him to stop? I'll still have to see him every day.
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yeah, you just need to be honest in small doses..
when he's in your personal space and you move away, and he moves in closer, just say, "Look, i need a little space here" ...
and perhaps let him know you are seeing someone... that its personal (your personal life) and you don't want to discuss it...
and tell your girlfriends to not discuss you with him anymore... if he asks questions about you, direct them to tell him to ask you about it... and when if he does, if its not work related
tell him its personal and you'd rather not discuss your personal life at work.
and also, you could go to management and tell them he is "bothering you" and ask if they
can instruct him to keep it business related and give you some space
you could also just level with him, tell him you precieve he might have a crush on you or like you and you just don't feel the same way about him.
Hi, Ultimately I think you have to tell him straight up that you are NOT interested.
It may seem harsh, but it is quick and easy. I suggest this before going to the boss and asking him to do something about it.
Inter-office mail......or spray him with a garden hose.