is my dad a jerk???????
first off, plz dont say "oh well he did this and you should be thankful"
ok.
he never lets me have my own opinion about ANYTHING
he keeps reminding me that he knows more than me in EVERYTHING
he forces me downstairs to sit next to him because his dad never loved him
if he says that he dosnt like something, i shouldnt either
he sit down all day and makes me clean the house
he complains every 30 min (literly) about how my room look dirty
he forces me to do stuff that dont want, like go get him a cup of water, ect ect
he refuses to buy me ANYTHING. i mean this literly. i asked him for a simple bike tool and he said we could make one from scratch.
if i say "but why?" he say "because" like a little kid
he always commenting on stupid things, like "oh i think you should sell this painting" even though i said i dont whant to
i once made $40 and he said "give 35 to your mom, and keep the rest to yourself" i asked my mom if she needed it, and she said, no, who gave you that idea?
he keeps reminding me about my heratige and what he did as a kid
he said "if you dont do well in school, your NOTHING"
he never drives me anywere i want
if iw ant to buy smething i want, he says "i gave you that money, so spend it on what i want"
he hates me playing yugioh, and says that i sould sell my cards
he says when u get a job, you do relise that you'll be giving me some money?" even though im only thirteen
he never compationate about my feelings ( im a guy)
he barges into my room while im on the computer, and check everything that ive done on it. i say "can you knock?" and he says nope
so thats about it, he's not abusing me, so dont et that idea. i want to know your opinion about him
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Yep, but lots of people have a dad who's a jerk.
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That's mean .....
I feel sorry for you... Umm, do you think he's going to check your history and go through this?
Your 13. And you need some space.
I'm 13 too. So I think I would know how it would feel.
He should know that your'e old enough to start making your own decisions, and if he keeps making them for you, it won't help at all in the future.
He needs to know that teens need their space and if he asks you to get him something, ask him if he would listen to you when you wanna go somehwere and if he would do it. If he ever says "I own you" or "You live in my house so your under my rules" or something like that... then maybe say that you never wanted to live here and you rather live with your grandma,aunt,etc? But if that will get you in trouble, don't say it lol.
If he comments about your room, say that you don't mind it like that and if he doesn't like it he shouldn't look at it.
My opinion?
If that was my dad, I would back talk every minute.
I think your dad IS a jerk.
My daddy is awesome but think of it, I bet that your'e not the only teen with a dad like that, and there are worse dads out there.
First of all, I must say that our two fathers are INCREDIBLY alike. Is he foreign or grew up in a strict lifestyle? My father is a purebred Lebanese and Arab fathers can be ridiculous, but they are incredibly loving and mean well.
First of all, I have to say that some things that he is doing can be bad for your confidence and self-esteem, like belittling you or not using positive reinforcement. My dad tends to do the same thing, but he doesn't realize it. I'm sure your dad really cares about you and means well, and is just looking out for your best interest... but is doing it in a negative manner. Try talking to him about your feelings and he should listen. If you don't want to acknowledge the good things he does for you and still consider him a jerk, then that is just a sign of immaturity and he probably knows that, thus, still treats you like a child. So if you can show him maturity and the ability to change, then he should do the same.
I know you didn't want to hear this, but what I want you to think about though, is the good things that your father provides for you. You have a home, he feeds you, he provides.. Some parents make their legal children pay for rent or kick them out early. I am 19 and still live with my parents but only because my income cannot provide for independent expenses. So while I am under his roof, I respect him, and you should do the same. (For most or certain issues...like I said, talk to him when he puts you down because that isn't good...he probably just doesn't realize what he is doing and probably treats others the same, so don't take it too personally.)
sounds like a normal father..I'm sure he says a lot of other things on occasion that are actually nice;; & no, you cannot disown your father;; & yes, you can disagree with your father, but he will always be "right";; ya gotta let this stuff go, really;; your dad has what we call a "personality", you may like some things about it, you may find a lot of things ya can't stand;; but when he is gone, you'll miss this silly stuff;; he's also suffered the "wraths" of being a father too; you'll get over it;; start focusing on other stuff than how much ya wanna hate him;; blow him off when he makes stupid comments;; probably doesn't owe you "reasons" cuz he's explained them before (ya just don't remember); trying to teach you how to take care of yourself a little @ a time;; the money thing, he wants you to save some of it, that's why he's teeling you to give it to your mom, just your mom has no clue to what he's talking about, start a bank account;; I can explain every answer to you from a "parent" perspective;; just, your dad is "blunt", some good things about that, @ least ya know he's honest...good luck, but just blow it off; you're being a little too sensitive about it;; just tell him , "yeah, dad, love ya too!" kids do forget that their parents were kids too, & yes, it does NOT matter what decade, or what generation, the parent/teen relationship is always a struggle;; & you WILL find this out in your future!! good luck with your dad, but you've lived longer than anyone else here with him, you should know him by now...blow it off the sleeve, dad's DON't hate their kids...
most of that stuff on the list dosn't seem like a good dad would do that i mean maybe doing him a few favors once and a while but taking your money and stuff and not buying you things, he seems kinda mean...
Well, he does seem like a jerk, but to be honest, most people thing their parents are jerks. Your dad, however, seems to be a giant jerk.
I think that he really just wants to spend time with you. When my mom had a hip replacement, I had to do way more than just get her some water. Spend some time with him.
he's just being a dad...it'll get better.
he's at that point of teching you responsibility, you're 13 & he's looking out for your best interests.
he sounds like a typical dad. you're just irritated. some day you'll miss it and wish you could be inconvenienced again.