why do most muslims date?
Assalamualeykum
it honestly really irritates me when I see a muslim dating. I mean its clear that dating is haram and being with non mahram men and female. so why do many do it? do they not fear death and Allah swt?
worst part is some people still call these people believing and righteous people....
Update:To those who say dating is allowed read this:
… Also, you may marry the chaste women among the believers, as well as the chaste women among the followers of previous scripture, provided you pay them their due dowries. You shall maintain chastity, not committing adultery, nor taking secret lovers. Anyone who rejects faith, all his work will be in vain, and in the Hereafter he will be with the losers. Qur'an 5:5
*we should be chaste and are not allowed to take secret friends meaning dating.
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man is ever alone with a (non-mahram) women but the Shaytaan is the third one present.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2165; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 1758)
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Same reason why a lot of muslim in "Arab" countries consume Alcohol - I am not even talking about Western society. A lot of people don't care anymore about the religion and that's true
Some people do not like rules to follow they just want to be free and be kind to others that's it - They have no connection with their creator.
Its because love is the natural inclination. Companionship is the natural inclination. Furthermore as true scholars that deal with the inner dimensions of Islam (taqwa, ihsan, akhlaq) have become few and far between and western culture has become dominant. Many find the weight of proper gender interactions too hard to bear. Also because we physically are pretty much ready to get married at 16-18, youth (such as myself) have to deal with not only the hardship of loneliness but also battling their hormones. Realistically its rare to have a man be married before 24 and for women 22. So since the age of puberty -lets say 12 (even though it could be earlier) you are trying to spend a decade or more in abstinence when its the most desirable thing to you in your life (again natural). Please dont be "irritated", deal with them with mercy do you think they want to disobey God? No. Also they are believing people NEVER take the iman away from someone! Its insanely trying and shaytan targets the youth more than any other people. Maybe they arent righteous or practicing but the most important thing is Iman and maybe one day they will start practicing again. May Allah make the tests of the youth easy and help me and this ummah to what is right.
well this is life. we all sin. and your still a Muslim even if you date. its not like dating and pre-marital sex can lead a person to disbelief. the only sins that leads someone to disbelief is Shirk/Atheism. those two sins are the worst ones. there are sins that are far worse than dating and pre-marital sex. but the more good deeds a muslim does, the greater chances the muslim has of getting into paradise. and dont take this the wrong way but you should really worry about your own life. dont worry about others ok. its their lives. everybody has free will and if they choose to date, have sex, consume alcohol, etc. then let them. who cares? everybody is raised different. and also, dating and sex is considered normal in the modern world. its the 21st century not the 12th century. I am always surrounded by girls. everyday i am tempted to look at them. everybody on Earth has the right to live their life the way they want. its the reason why Allah gave us free will. there is no point in telling everybody to not date because they will never listen or care. hope this helps and good luck
When you fall in love a chemical reaction takes place in the brain, so its not there fault if they fall in love. All you muslims are doing a sin, islam teaches you not to judge while you all clearly judge by mulims dating. You get non religious people in every religion. So all you muslims that think all muslims should all very religious, get a grip "allah" made that that way.
The Muslim Ummah has become so bad that they don't know the difference between right and wrong. They do it so often and say it's ok because they do it all the time and are now used to it. May Allah guide us all...
i know what is the problem
the problem is how they were raised
So they are named muslims but they do not know anything about Islam
when your parents really teach you the concept of Islam and the miracles of Quran ( in astronomy especially )) they will grow up to be true muslims
but when your parent only teach you how to pray and fast they will grow up to be muslims in names only
that is my point of view ..
They lack Islamic knowledge.
wa'alaikum salam..
i think they dont understand about it, or their knowledge of islam is still poor.
may Allah guide them to the right path of islam.
Assalamu Alaikum, Sister Safiyah.
Majority of Muslims in Muslim countries are not taught real Islam to Muslim boys properly. Same happens to Muslims boys who are born and raised in western countries. Parents are too busy making dollars and never teach their sons the real Islamic teachings. In Muslim countries Mullahs are not properly trained to teach Islam to boys and girls. Only least intelligent boys are made Mullahs in Muslim countries. Highly intelligent boys are made doctors and engineers and scientists.
Parents keep girls in total control. They are never left alone in home and never allowed to go out without company of a brother or another family member. When these boys come for higher education in western countries, It is natural for these boys to have attraction for girls and when they see all boys have girl friends. So they also accept the offer of western girls to go out with them. Once they learn how to approach a girl to go out with them, they starts asking the girls also. The boys who are born and raised in west, they learn dating in High Schools.
The boys who get real education and knowledge of Islam in their growing years from a well knowledgeable Alim, only they protect themselves and refuse to go out with any one and wait to get married first whom they happen to like and choose to be their life partners. Certainly they are few.
Nearly all Muslim boys once get married they remain faithful to their wives because Muslim wives also remain faithful to their husbands even if they are born and raised in west but were sent to Sunday Islamic Schools to learn Islamic teachings.
In early Islam parents of boys married them as soon as they reached puberty because most of them had either their own land to cultivate or did some kind of business. Even poor parents married their sons early to protect them from any sinful acts.
Today, they all have to wait till they graduate from colleges and unfortunately there are equal or more girls students studying with them. It is extremely hard for them not to talk to each other being in same class every year even in Muslim countries. But in Muslim countries very few girls of rich parents go out with boys calling them friends.
How else can you find a wife or husband without dating?