Do you think opposites attract?
I've been into this guy for a very long time, as in a little over five years now. I'm 20 and he's 22. We've known each other our whole lives, hence we grew up in a small town. I know he knows that I like him because, well, everybody knows and people tell him all the time. At my uncle's party, my siblings and cousin kept telling him that I like him (in my face!) and he was chuckling and grinning. I was embarrassed so I just walked off.
Also, he has a girlfriend. He has been seeing her for about a year now. Her sister works at a local restaurant and my sister was casually asking her questions about her sister's relationship with my "crush". My sister asked if they were planning to get married. She said that they had been vacationing in TN that week, but she wasn't sure if they were going to get married yet. She also said that her nephew had called my crush daddy, but he didn't say anything. Yeah, I know, I was crushed. This girl was answering these questions in front of a whole lot of people who knew that I liked him and who were also looking at me to see my reaction. I didn't cry until later, when I was alone. lol
Anyway, this weekend, my best friend who coincidentally is also his half sister had her 20th birthday party. He was there. My sister asked him if he found me attractive. He said, Yes. But only as a friend because our personalities don't match. The hell?! I thought opposites attract? Furthermore, I don't think he knows me well enough to "know" my personality unless he has been scoping me out all this time. For some reason, I'm really quiet when he's around.
He also said that he dated "my best friend". (not his sister pervs, lol. another chick) I'm not really sure how he figured that she's my best friend, however we were associates in high school and I liked him before they even dated. Besides, she's dated half the town so does that disqualify me from dating them too?
So, my question is...what do you think he meant by our personalities don't match? Do you think it was a polite way of saying no or what? I'm so confused and blah...All answers are greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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Science says yes.
Ummm yeah. Girl what is wrong with you? First let me say, I don't believe in all that we just friend crap people like to put out there. Opposites always attract. It's hard for a boy and girl to know each their whole lives or even just a few years and not feel anything between them. Another problem you pointed is that you are quiet. Had you been more talkative and not afraid to confess your feelings for this guy throughout all the years you two known each other, you would have been the girlfriend and not someone else. The early bird gets the worm. You are the slow bird so you missed the worm. Next time speed it up and don't wait so many years to make a move. GEEZ!!
well technically and science wise yes. physiologically, yes and no. i say that because if you are too different from each other things would work. for an example too different cultures, religions. i say that because there may be different beliefs and values that may be important to you or vice versa that the other won't understand. there is a good chance the relationship won't work.
science actually says no...science of the mind that is. I'm a psych major and in the real world, opposites rarely attract.