Christians, A biblical marriage?
Of course marriage is not exclusive to any faith but what are some of the unique features of a biblical marriage?
Do you think all Christians who wish to marry must adhere by the rules of the bible in regard to the roles of each gender etc?
Do you think marriage can only work using biblical principles?
This what we are discussing in bible study tonight so I want some opinions.
Update:Jeanmarie: I couldn't agree more. Wifes and husbands must submit to each other. I think if one or both don't feel valued (in opinion, decision making, work) a marriage will not last long. Its give and take and compromise on both sides.
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the bible talks about husbands and wives submitting to each other.
When one really "serves' the other only then can a marriage be happy.
When my husband and I really tried a biblical marriage it worked and only then. Before that is was resentment and arguing. "I do more than you, why don't YOU do this....blah blah blah."
When we both tried to please the other it worked.
Look at Jesus and how he told his disciples to serve each other. Look how the king of the universe served us by his sacrifice!
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I think that all Christians should use the Bible as their guidelines for marriage as well as for every day living. A marriage can only work if two people put God then each other before themselves. The woman should submit to the man, and the man should love and cherish the wife. This i feel is very important in a marriage. Many don't work out because each person puts themselves before the other and certainly don't keep God at the forefront of the marriage. I think that before Christians should get married, they should be required to read the sections of the Bible pertaining to marriage. There is a lot of information there that God wants you to know and follow.
The beauty of Christianity is the forgiveness of sins...
So, if a married Christians does something wrong and repents to God, God forgives that person and that person may start fresh. Also, the culture in those days is different than present days. Marriage is a union between man and a woman in the eyes of God and we should respect and honor one another.
Just as Jesus said:
Mat 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Mat 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
We need to look at the whole Bible and not just one or two verses. Jesus treated women with utmost respect, something that was unheard of at the time and would still be unthinkable to very conservative Jews today. He did not dominate - He served His disciples, even washing their feet, a very menial task. He cooked breakfast for them and treated them with respect and kindness. In additon, we are told to submit to each other, not a unlateral submission. Follow Jesus' example and marriage will be strong and vibrant. Act like a caveman who wants to rule and it will fall apart.
You cannot stick to the bible these days when it comes to the roles in marriage.There are many factors to support this due to life being very different today. Women work ,so household chores must be equally divided, so gender roles are no longer applicable.Marriage works if the people within that marriage are united in wanting it to work.It is all to do with respect for your spouse.Biblical principals are over 2000yrs old and dont really apply today.
Your initial statement - "Of course marriage is not exclusive to any faith" - will probably get you some disparaging answers. It seems that a lot of Christians believe that only marriages blessed by the Christian God are true unions, despite the fact that marriage is not inherent to any one religion.
Awesome topic.
A woman should enjoy and obey her husband and give him sex as much as he wants. A man should respect, love and be willing to die for his wife, and give her sex as much as she wants. (To stop lust outside the marriage).
Yes. Only by God's ways is a marriage a marriage.
Our culture adopted the custom of marriage so that atheists can marry, too, but marriage IS God's idea.
Yes, I believe that a woman should be submissive and that a man should be dominant.
Yes, marriage can only work with God's help.
Christians should listen to the entire word of God.. it's not pick & choose.