Serious advice needed....?
I have met a man online who I get on with very well...we have spoken on the phone and emailed and we have a lot in common....it would be great to meet him apart from one issue......the photos he has seen of me were taken a year or two ago and i weighed 42 pounds less then due to having an eating disorder etc.....he keeps going on about how beautiful I am etc and I do not want to show up and for him to find me unattractive.......should I lose weight before I met him?..hwo long would this take?
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You should tell the guy. Be honest and let him know the circumstances, that he might be disappointed. Always update your photos with something current.
Then consult your physician about achieving the body that you want, in a healthy manner. You should be happy with your body and be healthy for yourself, not other people. If you have an eating disorder; please depend on a personal trainer, dietitian, and/or doctor to help you find a healthy means to a realistic and healthy body.
Hope you know what your doing, meeting a man on line can be very dangerous. I would be up front and honest with him and let him know that the pics are about a year ago when you had a eating disorder, you don't need to loose that extra 42 pounds, you're beautiful the way you are and if hes a wise man he knows that beauty is only skin deep and he looks at the whole you, i mean your personalty, what your heart is about and where you stand on personal issues in your life. I wish you luck
If This Guy Really Likes You Will Still Look Beautifull To Him No Matter What You Look Like Dont Put So Much Effort To Impress Him Because He Wouldnt Be A Very Nice Person If You Had To Do That
Hope It Works Out
XxX
You either need to lose weight, send him a current pic, or tell him that you've put on weight since the pictures were taken. Basically, you've told him you look like that, when you know that you don't - that is, you've lied to him. If you meet up without taking steps to either confess the truth or make the lie true, then he's going to find out. ^_^
Good luck!
Come clean with him, if you get on so well, he should understand about an eating disorder. Exchange more recent photos and if you want to, go ahead and try to lose a bit of weight, but don't go nuts and try starving yourself.
You haven't been totally honest with him, have you? Just send him an up to date photo and see how it goes from there. If he doesn't want to meet up with you, then you have no one else to blame but yourself. Why did you post old photo's? Appearances do matter to some people as you have just proved!
i dont know how long its gonna take but i advice u to tell him the truth that the pics were taken previously and all !
Appearance shouldn't matter in a relationship, its how much you love that person, just be yourself, thats who he fell in love with right?
Ask Phoebe.
u must loose ur weight
bcoz 1st impression is the last impression
its completely up to you
but if he can't except you for who you are
then he's not worth it.
xxxx