How do I resolve traumatic memories?
Growing up, I always dealt with my problems by withdrawing and ignoring the situations and how they made me feel. Years later, I still carry a lot of unsettling memories and emotions that I believe are holding me back. Recently I tried facing a memory, of when I watched a fight between my parents turn violent, and I end up having a panic attack. I want to move on from my past, but I don't know how to do it without causing significant harm to myself.
How can I resolve my past experiences? And do you think it's normal to still feel pain from certain experiences years later in life?
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Thank you for reaching out for help! I am very sorry that you have experienced so much pain. It is perfectly normal to feel pain from experiences that happened years previously.
Sometimes it can help to talk to someone and tell them about what you are going through. Please know that there are people who can and will help you with what you are going through. You may want to consider talking with a counselor at a hotline. There are many hotlines that are 24/7 and will work with you and situations like yours. Some even have email and/or chat if you would prefer.
I hope that you continue reaching out for help and support. The more that you share your pain and grief with those around you, the more that you will heal. You are still grieving, and it may help to journal how you are feeling, or express yourself using art or music. Make sure that you do not isolate yourself, but stay close to your friends and family.
I wish the best for you,
HW, Counselor
You need to go to a support group for your specific needs and see a psychologist/psychiatrist who deals with this sort of thing.
You can't do it alone.
Yes, it's normal to still feel pain from past trauma. Happens all the time. Think about Holocost survivors, war and war crime survivors, etc.