Marriage problem?
I have been married for 3 years now yet there seems to be no love in our marriage anymore. Is it possible that he doesnt love me anymore. I have also been seeing someone else on and off who sadly is also married. Am i getting into a big mess i just cant figure things out.
Update:Ok for those who care i didnt start cheating till he started ignoring me. And as for the other man he has left his wife. And yes we know about broken homes we each have 2 children.
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It sounds like the fact that you have strayed from your marriage indicates that there is something important lacking in your marriage otherwise you wouldn't have felt the need to stray in the first place...
It is possible your husband is not in love with you but you need to discuss that with him first before making any assumptions. If you have attempted communication without success, I would suggest a marriage counselor who might be able to give some unbiased advice to you both....it doesn't always work but it is worth a shot if you really want to salvage the relationship.
As for the affair, I think you should end that, not only for the sake of your own marriage but out of consideration for the other marriage at stake. There are two marriages that will ultimately be destroyed or at the very least damaged if your partners find out about your relationship.
You are definitely in a big mess and I am sure it brings you a great deal of guilt, sadness and confusion that is not going to be improved by continuing the affair. I am sure that this man you are seeing probably makes you feel special and desired in ways that your husband does not and that is probably why you began seeing him in the first place. However, it isn't practical. If you are not happy with your husband and you cannot resolve the marriage the best action is to get a divorce and maybe try to find someone who can better meet your emotional needs....
The only way to know for sure if he loves you or not, as well as other important issues, is to sit down and have a long talk about every single thing that is going on. And, as for this other married person, that can get rather messy for a lot of people if you're not careful.Cut the married person loose and focus on your own marriage for a while before making any decisions. Is this married man paying more attention to you than your husband? Perhaps you've given yourself emotionally to this man and shut off your husband, which could be why it seems like there's no love there anymore. I don't know anything beyond the contents of your question, so I'm really just grasping at straws. But I do know that you need to cut the married guy loose, sit your husband and communicate and focus on your marriage. Your answers will come soon after. Good luck.
It is very possible that you two could have grown apart of the years. Also apparently if you are seeing someone else then maybe you should ask yourself the question do you love him anymore? Maybe your guilty conscious is making you ask yourself all these questions.
As for seeing a married man, I've always thought if a married could see another woman, what make you think for one minute if you were to ever be with him that he wouldn't be seeing someone else?
Your getting yourself into a "HUGE" mess, and before you continue to see anyone else I think you should leave your husband, and if the married man is going to continue seeing you he needs to leave his. But, before you do anything I would sit and think about what you are "BOTH" doing. You are breaking home not just "ONE" home... but "TWO"!
If you care at all about keeping your marriage together, then stop seeing the other person. Counselling for you and your husband would be a good idea and if you can't afford that, make plans to spend more time together.....ie) go out on dates, play cards, rent a movie. The more time you spend together the more you'll talk and get to know each other again.
Once the newness wears off, you will be back in the same situation as you are now. The only thing different is you will be with someone who has already left his wife and kids and you will be next. Don't ever think it can't happen to you, because it can and will. Carma will get you every time.
Man you accuse him of not loving you but your seeing a married man....well i hope is is seeing a woman also that would teach you...why get married when you have no idea what you want in life and no commitment but want to be part in ruining another marriage also...hmmmm what was your question again....
If you are cheating on your husband are you sure thats its him who doesnt love anymore? I think you may be more at fault then you are willing to admit. I think you should talk to your husband about your feelings and your extra marital affair. You need to be totally honest about everything or you risk your marriage.
If you loved him you wouldnt have cheated, even if he ignored you. And look at what youre teaching your children. Its okay to cheat on your spouse if you feel ignored. Do you think thats right? You are ruining their lives as well as your own. You should be ashamed of yourself.
yes you are getting into a big mess,stop and step back,you must of married for love so start there.
i do not know your husband,but he must of been the top fella one time!start dating him again, and try to work at the relationship you started,remember you are married,not just for christmas for life.
good luck and stay happy.
wayne.
Your marriage is already over. If you are seeing someone else, that should answer your question right there.
Do your husband a favor and divorce him. He doesn't deserve to be cheated on regardless of the fact of how you feel.
You've been seeing someone else? You Have? ....... ya you might have a marriage problem there. Did it ever occur to you that since you've been seeing someone else that YOU have been sending out the bad vibes and he is just reacting accordingly?