Serious Marriage problem?
My wife is impossible, I will try keep this as short as possible...
She is pregnant 8 months
She threatens me every day that if I don't act as her slave she will leave and I will never see my son.
She has INSANE anger problems and will get angry to hitting walls hitting me hitting herself because of something as small as me asking her to come with me to the shop.
She tells me how I ruin her life and how terrible I am.
On an Average day I wake up make breakfast for her run shop for her get ready for work run around doing anything else she wants go work for 9 hours come home to her yelling and insulting me and to make myself dinner and then lay in bed with her cussing me out for whatever she decided to be angry about this time.
An Average day for her is sitting in bed watching internet videos and facebook.
She complains about being bored but for example today I had 2 free tickets to a premier at the cinema and she refused to go, she cussed me out for asking her more than once because she was tired.
I hate her more than anything now, I still love her but all the good is gone she is evil and hate filed she treats me like an animal not a person I would leave but I will lose my son... I don't know what I can do it is impossible to talk to her now.
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The next time she hits you, call the police and file a report. The time after that, call the police and file a report. Continue to do this for the next few months. Tell those you know about how your life really is. Have them around more often so they can see it for themselves. Keep a journal and write what she ssays and does in it.
Abuse is abuse and it doesn't matter who does the hitting or who plays the punching bag.
Have her arrested if possible and put a restraining order on her. Your child will be with you during this time.
After the next child is born, take her to court for custody and show the court how she's been arrested for abuse several times. Then divorce her and keep the children with you. NO one who is abusive should be raising children! Period!
I think she threatens you right now because shes pregnant and when a woman's pregnant they need a lot of help and care. They get exhausted easily and a whole lot of other things... Her hormones change all the time too and she must have back pain. For these reasons she acts moody, and she also needs help and care. She can't do things herself at the moment, she's pregnant! She probably gets angry at you easily for every tiny annoying thing or maybe shes just really stressed out or angry and moody (hormones!) therefore she's going to show it by shouting and doing what she does to you. When you ask her to go to the shop what she thinks in her mind is probably something like ' do you really think I can go to the shop with you in this state? I need to stay home and rest like every other pregnant woman!'. Pregnant women are vulnerable and exhausted most of the time.
For now just be calm, talk things out with her. These are probably just hormones, this is what happens with pregnant people. Maybe she's even worried about giving birth, its a very painful process, unless of coarse you do certain things that relieve the pain.
I'm afraid you just need to stick with it for now but if you talk things out with her, let her know how you feel, she'll act better. But don't point the finger at her and say 'you you you' because that will only make her annoyed and angry. Make 'I' sentences, so if you need to say something say ' I feel that you are moody..etc' and dont say 'you are so angry all the time!'. Believe me, this does make a difference.
Good luck. Don't worry, its most probably just the pregnancy time frame.
Hide a video camera & record her actions. After you have a significant amount of footage put it on a flash drive for safe keeping. You may need to use it against her in a divorce to keep your child. Then stop being her slave. Tell her to shut up & get in line. If she isn't having sex with you because she is pregnant, demand it. Don't let her sleep until she spreads her legs or gives oral sex. Make her understand you are done being nice & are taking charge now. You will be surprised how many women will fall in line when you start acting like the leader.
MY Opinion is, I wanted to think that it was her hormones, but I think she's def taking it a little too far. She has to know that she's hurting your feelings. It's nice of you to do what she wants, but at some point you have to put your foot down & demand some respect. I can tell you that she (legally) can't take your son away from you, so next time she says that, tell her she can go to jail...(look up your state's laws on that, it'll tell you). NO 1 should be treated like that & I think if you put your foot down then she'll start respecting you, she wouldn't want you to talk to her like that, so DON'T LET ANY1 TREAT YOU THAT WAY (the mother of your child or whoever). Good luck, you deserve better. Congrats on your soon to be blessing!
Have you tried sitting down with her and having a conversation maybe something is bothering your wife?
because shes 8 months pregnant it could be the crazy up and down hormones she's going through right now. with all that anger she has its not good for her health nor for the baby. either as a husband be patience with her and give her some space alone when she needs it. Good luck
Well I would say it might be the hormones from being pregnant but that's a little extreme. Maybe she has some sort of mental issue. Was she like this before the pregnancy? Talk to a doctor and see if that's normal, if not then she might need help.
Wow.
Either:
1. You are exaggerating. OR
2. She needs to see a doctor. Hormones can certainly wreck havoc on ANY pregnant woman BUT IT IS NOT NORMAL TO HIT YOU, HIT WALLS, HIT HERSELF...
Why not arrange a medical appointment with her? If you aren't making this up or exaggerating it sounds like she needs medical help.
Sounds 100% exactly like my wife. We are divorcing after 8+ years of marriage, and over the years it only got worse. Here is the culmination of what is to come:
Get out of Army for daughter?
1. Early 30's and I have just over 10 years in the Army (E7) and good pay
2. Wife divorcing me and moving back home (6 hours from where I am stationed)
3. Kid is 8 years old
4. No infidelity; Yes I know I can stop her from moving, but if I stay in the Army the Army will put me on orders to move in 2 years anyway. It could be across the US, Italy, Germany, Korea, Japan, Hawaii, etc.
5. Do not respond that I need to fight for custody because I will not win that one due to nature of my work. My wife is a good mom and my kid loves my step kid. They need to grow up together.
6. Currently about $60K after benefits included. Draw pension after 20 years service (20K a year) and cheap health care till death.
7. Chances of being over 1000 miles from my daughter = 70%+
My job in the military is Information Systems and signal systems. Associates degree and about to work on Bachelors Degree or Trade school. 2 years to prepare prior to getting out (if thats what I choose to do).
Should I get out of the Army in 23 months and move to the same city as my daughter so that she can know me? It will allow me to see her every weekend and attend school functions and athletic events/dances. I play with her, sit with her, and love on her right now and wonder how I am going to do it (She moves in May). Should I give up my stable, good paying military job, and pension check to go be with my daughter? I have considered National Guard/Reserves, but what civilian job? IT is outsourced, HVAC and Trades start out at about $8 and hour (make $29 now after tax). Education jobs are being cut. I am very physically fit and intelligent and could switch into multiple new sectors if that is what I have to do, but I cannot see any hope in getting out right now? What to do?
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I want my daughter to be around me. I want her to see who I am and experience life with me. This is something that Skype does not provide. Skype, email, XBOX live interaction, and the like will serve as quality tools in the event I fail to find a quality/realistic way out of the Army. E7/E8 pay is very good and almost half of the pay is tax free. There are multiple tax breaks offered to Military Service members.
The last 10 years have been full of challenges and experiences that I could not get in any other walk of life. I would like my child to see me on the weekends and some evenings and see who I am as a person. Currently I am working in an environment that will allow me to finish a BS/BA/BBA Finance or other degree. Once I am out, I can work during the day and take classes at night which would be paid for via GI Bill (with $1200 stipend for living).
If she was like this before the pregnancy you are in an abusive relationship and so is your unborn child. Don't pander to her and report her violence.
If this behaviour is out of the blue then something is very wrong and you need to get her medical help urgently.
It could be hormonal, in which case there's almost nothing you can do about it unless SHE gets tired of being this way. Letting her know that you're unhappy, and close to being fed up unless she gets herself some help might be a way to approach it though.