Be more spontanous. You're probably in too much of a routine, and just cought up in the every day hum drum. Go out for a drive one day pull over and just start going at it.
You need to work at it. Are you willing to experiment? The best sex I ever had was with my wife after about 10 years of dating and marriage. 80% of sex occurs in the largest sex organ in your body, the brain. By experiment I don't mean with tools or ponies and circus acts, I mean by trying to get in touch with your feelings. This will mean you are vulnerable.
This will mean you each have a lot to risk. My marriage didn't end up working out and it destroyed me for a long time because I was so vulnerable, but I did try and never had a dull moment in the sack.
Our sex life is still exciting years later. I think sex begins in the mental atmosphere and if you try to connect in that way the sex will become exciting again. Play a board game against each other, rivalry can spur sexual excitement. Get physical, exercising together boosts endorphins and gets the blood flowing. I know after my husband and I work out together we go home and work out some more...good luck.
Wow. I have sooo many tips for you girl! I buy outfits, costumes stuff like that. I have a army girl cadet outfit that he adores! Play it up. Go out for dinner, but you get ready at a friends house and meet him there, it creates mystery. Try something new, anything, keep an open mind. Sex toys are also good. Me and my STB Hubby recently got a Clone a willy (www.cloneawilly.com) It's amazing, it looks like his clone! Hence the name. I call it Little Keith. Haha.But, talk about your fantasies, play them out. Go for a private getaway weekend. Or just lock yourselves in the house, kids off to grandmas, no phones, order in, and order raunchy movies on TV. Dirty talk is also fun, if you've never done it, practice to yourself. Film the two of you having sex. Have a friend take sexy pictures you and put them in random places where he'll find, (his car, in his show, his wallet, on the bathroom mirror when he's in the shower.) Give him a striptease. Find a song that turns you on, that you can dance to, put on your biggest pair of heels, something sexy and flattering, fix your hair and make-up and practice in front of the mirror to see what looks good. Then move to the real deal. Make him sit on his hands and tell him not to touch. Or else. Or dominate him. Take it. Throw him on the bed, rip of his pants, and go to down girl! Get dirty! I have so much more for you, if you want, you can email me. Haha good luck chick!
Your question should be "What can my husband and I do to make sex better....."
I have lots of suggestions but they would only work if the commitment is from both of you - you need to get back to what got you together in the first place.
Does he not want to have sex most of the time or is it you? Depends who the person is. If he's the one not wanting it then do something that you know will turn him on. and if you dont want sex most of the time then ask him to do things that make you get turned on. If it doesnt work, go check out an adult store and ask for somthing that will boost your sex life.
Umm try kinky SEx.... Watch porn together an Make out... Try bathtubs, Dinner Table, office desk. Dress like a cheerleader, slu*, Porn Star... Make your husband wear those sexy mens underwear.... Try these and then mail me if u need more help... lol
Talk about it with your spouse. Change things up, dont do the same things over and over agian. Try different positions, different rooms and dress up with sexy lingerie and heels. My hubby and I have been married for 10+ years and we still have great sex. Good luck.
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Be more spontanous. You're probably in too much of a routine, and just cought up in the every day hum drum. Go out for a drive one day pull over and just start going at it.
You need to work at it. Are you willing to experiment? The best sex I ever had was with my wife after about 10 years of dating and marriage. 80% of sex occurs in the largest sex organ in your body, the brain. By experiment I don't mean with tools or ponies and circus acts, I mean by trying to get in touch with your feelings. This will mean you are vulnerable.
This will mean you each have a lot to risk. My marriage didn't end up working out and it destroyed me for a long time because I was so vulnerable, but I did try and never had a dull moment in the sack.
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Our sex life is still exciting years later. I think sex begins in the mental atmosphere and if you try to connect in that way the sex will become exciting again. Play a board game against each other, rivalry can spur sexual excitement. Get physical, exercising together boosts endorphins and gets the blood flowing. I know after my husband and I work out together we go home and work out some more...good luck.
Wow. I have sooo many tips for you girl! I buy outfits, costumes stuff like that. I have a army girl cadet outfit that he adores! Play it up. Go out for dinner, but you get ready at a friends house and meet him there, it creates mystery. Try something new, anything, keep an open mind. Sex toys are also good. Me and my STB Hubby recently got a Clone a willy (www.cloneawilly.com) It's amazing, it looks like his clone! Hence the name. I call it Little Keith. Haha.But, talk about your fantasies, play them out. Go for a private getaway weekend. Or just lock yourselves in the house, kids off to grandmas, no phones, order in, and order raunchy movies on TV. Dirty talk is also fun, if you've never done it, practice to yourself. Film the two of you having sex. Have a friend take sexy pictures you and put them in random places where he'll find, (his car, in his show, his wallet, on the bathroom mirror when he's in the shower.) Give him a striptease. Find a song that turns you on, that you can dance to, put on your biggest pair of heels, something sexy and flattering, fix your hair and make-up and practice in front of the mirror to see what looks good. Then move to the real deal. Make him sit on his hands and tell him not to touch. Or else. Or dominate him. Take it. Throw him on the bed, rip of his pants, and go to down girl! Get dirty! I have so much more for you, if you want, you can email me. Haha good luck chick!
Your question should be "What can my husband and I do to make sex better....."
I have lots of suggestions but they would only work if the commitment is from both of you - you need to get back to what got you together in the first place.
Does he not want to have sex most of the time or is it you? Depends who the person is. If he's the one not wanting it then do something that you know will turn him on. and if you dont want sex most of the time then ask him to do things that make you get turned on. If it doesnt work, go check out an adult store and ask for somthing that will boost your sex life.
Umm try kinky SEx.... Watch porn together an Make out... Try bathtubs, Dinner Table, office desk. Dress like a cheerleader, slu*, Porn Star... Make your husband wear those sexy mens underwear.... Try these and then mail me if u need more help... lol
Talk about it with your spouse. Change things up, dont do the same things over and over agian. Try different positions, different rooms and dress up with sexy lingerie and heels. My hubby and I have been married for 10+ years and we still have great sex. Good luck.
Keep the hat on, and tell your hubby that your a cowgirl,and you want to ride that baloney pony. Every day.
It's not meant to be cultivated more and more, but rather graciously transcended, eventually.
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