HELP PLEASE:School Dilemma!?
I'm usually that type of person is too nice and puts up with stuff but doesn't let it happen at the same time.I didn't really have anything against anyone before but now I truly know who I don't like and aren't worth my attention.
Lately I have been in a total different mood and have getting pretty annoyed with people and they have noticed it.
I'm tired of being a follower of the stupid things that my friends do and almost even sort of getting left out.I try joining people but it sort of gets weird.I don't even have a best friend that I can hang out with.I'm tired of getting stepped over and ignored even if i do extremely good and just being in the background while the slackers get attention.I'm not trying to start crap with people at school or be totally negative.I'm done with these things.
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Hi Urbana,
Sounds like you're under stress. That's probably what's making you feel the way you do. Try taking a couple of steps back from your current situation and see if you can figure out what the main causes are. Sometimes our first reactions when we're stressed out is to project or transfer the blame to something other then the actual causes. So you might be having trouble at school. Your parents might be fighting. Or you might be facing upcoming deadlines in taking the ACT or getting word back about your financial aid. Just figuring out what's really bugging you can make a big difference in how you feel.
Another approach, assuming the people you hang out with are actually causing you stress, would be to make some changes there. Try finding a new cohort of friends. If you like chess for example, try joining the Chess Club at your school. That's likely to put you in contact with a different group of people. Or try volunteering at the local animal shelter helping care for abused animals. Nothing gets you out of being self-absorbed faster then focusing on others who are having hard times. Finally, this too shall pass. You could just wait for a while and your mood will probably abate. Regards.
If you're meeting people and it feels uncomfortable or wierd that could be normal--sometimes people don't hit it on at the beginning, just talk to people that have the same things in common with you and don't want to do the immature things you're "friends" do.
If you want to stay away from all the drama, just ignore it but if someone is truly bothering you, don't let them get away with it because they'll continue to do it.