eye contact v's EYE CONTACT?
Ok you have that eye contact with friends, colleagues, teachers people all around. What is difference to how someone attracted to you make eye contact with you. Does the pupil always have to be dilated? if it isn't but there is THAT look in the eye witha smile does that still mean attraction?
Please give advice
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I don't think it's the dilated pupil thing.
Yes, there is the eye contact between a friend, co-worker, etc. Then there is the Other look- all though I would hate to put it in stone that everyone that also is friendly and looks at you with a smile means chemistry.
You know the difference because you asked the question.
It is that extended look, smile, or handshake- where the head might be ****** to one side ever so slightly. It is that extra attempt to make the conversation last a little longer or that nervous, coquettish laugh- it's a vibe- and you know what it is deep down inside.
If you can't stand the suspense- come right out and ask!
If you dont think you have low self esteem then you dont. No one can tell you that. You could just be very introverted. Being a musician you are obviously very artistic, and i think in order to be a successful musician or artist you have to be able to look into yourself for guidance and ideas. I am introverted too, but after i embraced this in myself i got to know myself a lot better and as a result i actually gained self confidence so i appear more extroverted. The funny thing is that once i gained it, i didn't really care that i gained it. Abandon the idea that there is a certain way you need to behave when you interact with other people. Abandon the idea that you need to be confident as well. Just be yourself. Trying to become someone else is a waste of who you are now. And who you are now is a very talented person.
When I'm making eye contact with a friend or boss or whatever it's to tell them "I'm listening to what you are saying." When I'm making flirty eye contact, it's to say, "You are sexy, and I want you to know it." Up close, pupil dialation is a good sign, but when you can tell the diffrence when across a room too, so that can't be all there is to it. I guess the difference comes from more than my eyes. My posture for instance is a good indicator, my facial expression. Also, did you know that pupil dialate when you see something you hate as well as love? So, I guess all that plays a part.
Ususally, it's a lot simpler than trying to get them to stare at you long enough so you can judge the diameter of his/her pupil! LOL
A handshake that lasts longer than it should - or one that's too short from a friendly person (indicates shyness or embarassment).
A longer than expected eye-contact **with a smile**. Just because someone's locked eyes with you doesn't mean they're interested. The smile, the head slightly tilted to one side, almost questioningly, maybe even a raised eyebrow, but don't count on that last one.
Since you are asking about eye contact I'd have to remind you that the prolonged eye lock and the smile usually indcate "knowing". Whether that means he/she knows something about you (waiting for you to come forward), or knows that he/she is interested and is hoping you'll come forward... what you describe is likely attraction.
Good Luck.
And remember, if this was bad advice, my real name is... uhmm.. er... uh... Hmmm Hey Jeff, can I give him your name?
LOL don't be so dumb. What youre goign to try to look very hard into the person's eyes to see if if theyre pupils dilate and overanalize theyre eyes? Dont be pathetic. You're not a spy, lawyer, or witness analyzer. If the person's atractted to you he/she should give you other more realible signs.
**Take of your glasses I have to look at your pupils
When you're at a bar and you see some one that's hot, you can't keep your eyes off them. They keep catching you. That's the EYE CONTACT. This band Silversun Pickup cause it "Lazy Eye".
Someone whos attracted to you might gaze at you, as in watch you when your not looking, and if there shy, when you talk to them might not be able to look you in the eye
You should be able to feel it w/o worrying, but I think dilation is a good sign, it means the person is relaxed.
A look is best interpreted by the one being looked upon.
Normally there is a vibe which you can almost touch...