How do I cope after a miscarriage??
Im 20 and I got pregnant for the 1st time in my life--- Unfortunately, it ended in a miscarriage:( I found out my embryo expired at about 9wks, I would have been 13wks-Not totally bummed and depressed, b/c I can still have babies (thank god)- I need some advice on how to get over this depressing feeling--Do you have any?
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I'm 10 years older, have a 3.5 yr old daughter and 2 miscarriages within 4 months about 1.5 years ago. All I can say is, it is not your fault that you miscarried. Miscarriages happened due to different reasons. The one my mom often use is that perhaps there are genetic defects and that's God way of helping me out. It's always better to have it earlier on than to have a problematic pregnancy or still births later on. You can read up on it and learn what you can do to recuperate so that you will be ready for future pregnancies. There are things you can eat to improve your estrogen / progesterone levels, and I truly believe that I will be blessed next time around.
So, let bygone be bygone, it's not good to be mourning for your loss. I miscarried both times at around 7 weeks, so I really didn't feel too much of a loss. Depression is the worst thing to be feeling if you want to get pregnant again.
sorry about your loss, its hard and people are going to say stupid things like your young you'll have more, but i think that makes it worse. Time is what heals this kind of pain. I lost a set of twins at 21 weeks and people would tell me that. I did things in their honor, like bought a pair of earrings in the month that they were born (they were stillborn) the birthstone was purple this way i felt like they were with me, i walk in the march of dimes every year in honor of them. You have to get proactive about the loss it will help you feel better, and most importanlty give yourself time to greive and heal in anyway you feel you have to. sometimes people need to take a light antidepressant for a little while to get through some of the raw emotions, i didn't want to but a couple of months later i found that i was still so very sad crying all the time so i went on them and had some counsling and after like 3 months stopped using them and felt better. there are so many websites that you can chat with other women that lost that really helped me. You can also write journal of your preg if you think that will help. Good luck god bless you in your healing process.
i was 18 when i first got pregnant and i had a miscarriage at 12 weeks.
i t took me forever to get over it. i had another baby a year later and he is now 2 and i have a nother baby on the way now.
i suppose just thinking about the future babies will get you through. i am more upset because i have lost the scan phot i had of the baby i lost.
good luck. it will get better but you will never forgetor stop hurting, even if it is only a little.
i had a miscarriage about 5 years ago. i was 6 weeks along and i miscarried about a week after finding out. it gets easier as the days go by but i have to be honest with you that even now 5 years later i still get upset when i think about it. i thankful though that i have a healthy 6 year old daughter and i am 23 weeks pregnant with #2, but my i will never forget the one we lost.
I had 2 failed pregnancies before I had my twins. The only thing I can suggest to you is that no one can tell you how to cope. You just have to go one with life...go about your daily routine. It will get a little better each day.
Good luck!
Sorry for your loss. I know it is devastating but we all mourn differently with our losses. Please give yourself time to grieve. I lost my first one in May of 2006 and I still miss that baby and the one I lost in Oct 2006 as well. It is not something that most people ever really get over but the pain does lessen a lot as time goes by. Please take care of yourself!!
You should know that many, many woman go through this too, miscarriage is fairly common. Time heals and life goes on.