Help! I'm a crossdresser!?
Hi! I'm a sixteen year old indian crossdresser. I love to wear sarees. I've been crossdressing for quite some time now. But it wasn't until recently that I realized that I can't stop being a crossdresser. When my mum is away I dress my self in her beautiful sarees. Sometimes I really want to tell my mother about my fantasy. But I don't have enough courage to do so. Actually I think my mum has some idea about my crossdressing since I'm not an expert at folding sarees. I mean she surely must have noticed that her sarees were messed with by me. Should I talk to by mother about this??? what are your ideas?
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At the age of 14 myself I came to realize that I also was or am a crossdresser,, but that was just starting my high school years in 1974, I was scared crapless, I felt that I was the only one in the world that felt what I did,, I loved the feeling of wearing anything female lingerie, But I was still young enough to know that I didnt understand why I felt what I did, So to avoid embarrassment and no telling what else I felt it was just best that I kept it to myself untill I could understand it more and myself more,, It took me about 15 years, to finally be able to accept myself and be able to admit to myself that I am a crossdresser,, I still dont advertise it, I have told my sister, and she is very ok with it,,but parents,, you may want to take your time and think it over about what to say and when to say it,, I have had many people in my past tell me how sick I was and that I needed to get professional help,, just prepare yourself for what ever may come if you choose to tell them,, I would say think it over for a few years and get to a point where you accept yourself and so therefore it will be easier for you in case those close to you do not accept it,, and no telling what will be said,, Prepare thats the main thing,
According to some polls as many as 16-17% of the male population may get pleasure from wearing some feminine clothes.
Most of these men are normal heterosexual intelligent people. What is different with these men is that their brains produce serotonin and other nuerotransmitters which give them a sensation of pleasure, well-being, sexual gratification and self-identity when they crossdress. It affects the reward center of the brain and the result is similar to an addiction response where you feel as though you NEED to crossdress.
However, the truth is, you DON'T NEED to crossdress. You just get pleasure from it. Since this is similar to an addiction response, you will have to take control over it, or it will take control over you. Most heterosexual crossdressers get married and have children. Most wives of crossdressers do not like their husbands to crossdress... So the wives set the rules and limits for the husband's crossdressing and the husbands do their best to live up to those rules.
When you're 16 then crossdressing feels like the biggest problem in the world. You cannot come out in the open with it and you cannot wear what you want to wear... In a couple years you will have more opportunities to crossdress, and your decisions will affect the rest of your life.
I don't know why it's still such a big taboo in this day and age, but it is. It's caused me to be picked upon and I've lost girlfriends and boyfriends over it. But I am in the same boat and can remember doing it from a very early age. As I've gotten older (28 now) In public, I've found a pretty good balance between looking feminine, but pulling it back juuuust enough to where I'm not being accosted constantly.
Eitherway I wanted to let you know you aren't alone in that. And I'm hoping if you do tell your mom or others, you'll find nothing but understanding and love.
you are what you are,if you are a crossdresser you can deny your feelings ,but you cant change what you are inside.you can deny your feelings ,but eventually you will give in to your feelings and do what makes you feel good.Your mother may or may not know about your secret ,and if she did she probably wont say anything unless she knew for sure.Only you can decide weather or not you want to tell her,when you are ready to tell her you will know inside