Is my father a narcissist?
My father loves to pamper himself. All he cares about is if I make him food. If I don t make him food he ll get mad and curse me out and try to start a fight with me. Once he s done eating he sits and watches TV while doing drugs. He never wants to do any chores. My mom does everything, even the lawn and yard. My mom is also sick, she has really bad back problems so this year she didn t clean up the yard and we got a notice to clean it up. My father got angry and blamed my mom. I told my mom not to do it because he never does anything and he needs to do some work around the house. So today my brother and his family came to visit and my father was complaining that him that he got the notice and he doesn t know what to do. when they left I told him to have some of the snacks they brought over. A couple minutes go by and he says why it s not like your skinny trying to give me chips, why don t you keep them for tomorrow. (He always mentions my weigh and says I should stop eating) I got mad so I through the couch pillow at him and he took it and hit me a couple of time on the head. He always picks at me so he can fight with me. I left to my room and hes waiting for me with his belt. He tries to get a rise out of me so that he can fight me. By the way I m a 19 year old female. I hate my dad so much. When he was at the hospital I didn t visit him for a month. He disgusts me. I found that my only escape from him is to get married and stay out of the country.
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sounds like it, i would stay away from him too if he treated me like that
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He's a disgusting old fart. He married twice before my mother, but they were smart enough to leave him. He had 10 children, 5 boys and 5 girls with my mother.(He doesn't love my mother nor does she him, because she was forced to stay with him. She once did love him)He doesn't want his daughters to get married but once they do he doesn't talk to them and hates when they come over. He doesn't like any of his kids but he mostly doesn't like his daughters. I'm engaged and hopefully getting married this summer. Sometimes he says Im gonna call your fiance to come take you away or he'll say don't get married. You don't need to get married. (In my culture the man pays a couple thousands to marry the girl) once he gets that money he disowns his daughters. But I don't care about the money, as long as hes out of my life.
And please don't tell me I need to leave or run away, because I can't I'm not allowed to. My only option is marriage.
Both me (21 female) and my brother (19) hate our dad too. If he jokes and teases us it's ok, but if we do it to him he yells at us and calls us "rude" "brats" etc. If I say something he doesn't like or get offended by he says "that's something your mom would say" or "your mom told you to say that" and "you're just like your mom" (which is good I'd prefer to be like my mom and not like him.) My parents are divorced and my dad bad-mouths my mom all the time. My dad is a racist and a homophobe. He constantly bad mouths all my family members who are gay or have mixed race children. Plus, he treats me like a child. I'm 21 and he shuffles cards for me, and treats me like child. To make things worse, he is dating a b****. I HATE HER! A few months ago I stood up to him and yelled at him to not shuffle cards for me and to not assume that everything I say, my mom said. And not to treat me like a five year old. It worked for awhile, we didn't speak for 3 months. During the period of not talking,mi honestly thought that if I had gotten married before we started talking, I wouldn't have invited him. Or if I had kids I wouldn't have exposed them to him. We are speaking some. I dred seeing him or his girlfriend.