LOW SELF ESTEEM? Serious advice please.?
There are some things that make me think that my bf is insecure.
he constantly asks me questions about how i feel. e.g. "why did you look there" "what did you see" "what happened"(when theres nothing wrong) and he is always watching me. "you look tired" "do you want to go somewhere else?" "are you comfortable with those shoes?" ......and the list goes on..and he asks so many questions like this that sometimes i dont know what to say back.
and he wants to know which actors i like, who i find handsome bla bla bla.
and whenever i give him a big kiss, he asks me if i missed him much or not.
hes not jealous, when i go out with my friends he doesnt even ask me to tell every detail. He seems to be trusting me. but maybe hes hiding his feelings not to look offensive. i dont know.
but yesterday i stayed in my best friend's house, (my best friend is a guy and he is gay but my bf doesnt know that) and he sent me a stupid text message late at night. he never texts me stupid messages, so i think it was to check what i was doing, how long it will take me to reply back.
does he sound insecure to you? If no, what do you call this? If yes, what can I do to comfort him?
thank you.
Could it be because he is afraid of losing me?
he is 32, but i THINK (NOT KNOW) he doesnt have much relationship experience, and that includes sexual experience.
I LOVE HIM AND WANT TO BE WITH HIM IN THE FUTURE DEFINITELY
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Tell him you're okay and let him know when you feel you need something you'll tell him... maybe he asks so many ?'s because he wants to know things are going smoothly...if you are more conversational in your approach it might help... it's good that he cares about how you feel, lots of times guys tend to forget/avoid doing that... how long have you been dating??
"...when i go out with my friends he doesnt even ask me to tell every detail." do you expect him to grill you about the things going on? that sounds like he trusts you...
it seems to me that you are complaining about him trying in your relationship... you need to be more open with your boyfriend and give him some slack, you seem to be picking out little things to try to find something wrong with him... He doesn't sound insecure, he's just trying to get used to being with you...
You seem to be a distant person... are you an introvert? (like to be to yourself, and more reserved)
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