HELP ME PLEAASEE!! self esteem issues!?
okay well im 14 years old and i have a reallyyy bad problem..
I CANT STOP STRESSING ABOUT MY LOOKS!!
everyday when i get back from school i spend ages in front of the mirror worrying about if i looked ugly and in summer i always feel disgusted with my hair and i always stress about how i look argghh
heaps of people have told me that im pretty but i dont know whats wrong with my brain!!!
i think its partly to do with my fringe..whenever its out during the day at school, when i get back home i spend ages in front of the mirror wondering what it looked like when i was talking to this person, if someone thought i looked ugly with it etc etc. when its pinned back i usually dont really care how it looks and i dont stress..but some people have told me that it looks good down..so i dont know what to do!!
now im in assessment stage at school and i cant waste time stressing about looks..i need to focus on studies and stop thinking im ugly..
HELP ME PLEASE!!!
thanks xo
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Yeah, you said it yourself, try to commit and focus on your study but not all the time. You do need to have fun too, hang out with your friends. About your looks, you mentioned people saying you're beautiful, so there you go. Dont stress about your looks alot, you wont be looking pretty, trust me. Looking jovial add an aura around you, you'll have this youthful look and your face will shine to people seeing you, smiling
be confidence...confidence tops it all...hope this little advice cheer you up...cheers 
Here's an idea: Dress badly, don't do your hair, don't wear makeup, and don't fuss over your looks.
Do this for a week.
If at the end of the week you're still upset over just your fringe being out of place, then you need to seek a counselor to help you put things into perspective. You're being too superficial and self-conscious.
Looks are not as important as you think. You know what you need to do: Focus on your studies, develop a personality that goes beyond the mirror, and worry about catching a boyfriend/girlfriend that likes you for YOU, not for the position of your hair.
This is a sad result with women.
Really ......
Girls are brought (brainwashed)up on barbie and ken dream worlds , to always be "the" attractive 1 and be most looked at.
It makes for so much confusion , and competition , among them.
A lot of parents don't realize this or the effects it can have later in life with there children.
I say you shouldn't worry about your looks doll.....
All to many times it is possible to over due the outside,
Giving a false idea of whats really on the inside.
Yes we may look , yet we wont even say hello.
Some girls are just to high maintainess looking.
It intimidates many guys (usually for good reason)
Just be your self.......And besides the "Plain Tomboy" look will get you much further within life.
"Confidence, its not what you are its what you think you are."
If you think your ugly then you'll always feel that way, but until you gain confidence in yourself then you'll learn to accept who you are and become a more beautiful person (not physically, but it could be that too) and it will show to the public eyes. Anyways its normal for you to feel that way, a lot of girls your age feels like that, actually a lot of girls feel like that no matter how old they are. Don't let it get to you, I'm sure when you grow older you'll look more enhance and get into your own sense of style. Just for now go to schoo and study, have fun with your friends, and explore different types of products you think fits you (perfume, makeup, clothes, etc.). Oh yea just to let you know everything you see on the media and advertisement is fake, they got the money to get plastic surgery, expensive makeup, expensive clothes/purse, workout trainer, photoshop, name.... and it goes on.
Do what ever makes you comfortable. But you really need to learn to kinda stop worrying. So what if your hair is abit messy? Just dont worry. Eveybodys hair gets messy.
Maybe you could try tying your hair up differently so its not bothering you. Like change the style or something.
Good luck and hope i helped =D
you need to throw out all your mirrors and get good at something read a book and get a boyfriend then youll be to bizzy to look and you wont care if you realy want help put a rubber band around your arm everytime you look at the mirroe snap it nad if you keep looking keep doing it and youll keep away fromthe mirror
It's because you're a teenager. I don't want to trivialize your problems, but self-acceptance is something that comes with maturity.