I'm just guessing, but it's probably because they both did some really stupid things when they were your age, and they don't want you to do the same things.But they'll never admit it.
as you're the oldest, that's 1 of the reasons why they always nag at you.
they want you to be the good example for your younger brother/sister.
If you don't think you're doing anything wrong that cause them to nag constantly, why not talk to your parents?
Tell them how you feel about it, ask them what they expect from you & what you think about it.
Have a sit down and a chat with them, be open to them, and say you want to do the right thing, but constant being told off is in a way affecting your confidence and growth (mentally,emotionally). Ask them, can you please change a way to tell me things if you think i done it wrong? rather than nagging me all the time? I will be much appreciated if you could just tell me what you want me to do, in a more friendly way.
Make sure you talk in a calm tune, not angry or anything like that, let them know you are just trying to make things better in the house.
Like I always tell my kids...if you don't want to be nagged, do what I ask you the first time!
Unless your parents are completely unreasonable, and I know these parents do actually exist, then you probably need to look at your own actions before asking what is wrong with them...what is wrong with them is that they have high expectations of you...they know you can do better, and they want to prepare you for an adult life.
I have the same sort of opinion..my daughter is the oldest and most wise, so I expect her to lead a good example.
My guess is its because you are the oldest and supposed to be an example to your siblings. Im 29 now and i now have a great relationship with my parents.
My advice, keep your head down and dont answer back, i know its hard but believe me it will get better..
Good luckxx
Oh and remember they are always right, even when theyre not.
My mom nags because of the fact now that each and all the youngsters have moved out, gotten married, and function babies of our very own, she misses having human beings around. And sometime your mum and dad will experience the comparable way!!!
are you doing what your being told to do? it would help if you were more specific about what they are nagging about. would also help if you first put yourself in their shoes and imagine having a child who acts just as you do. would you nag to straighten them up? how would you deal with yourself?
we all go through what your going through and a lot of times it takes for you to grow up and make your way into the world before your able to understand or even appreciate what your parents are trying to do for you.
what i was in highschool my father wouldnt let me do anything. i couldnt date, couldnt go to sleep overs, i even went to the prom by myself. i used to think my father was so mean but now i see he saved me from the fate of my friends who has kids real young. now that im older, me and my father are the best of friends.
Yup, sure thing....I'm the oldest also,23, and get bitched at all the time...I honestly think my mom gets really really bored and tries to pick at things. I think she just needs to get a job, bitching and nagging full time doesn't pay. Probably time to move out.
They shouldn't do this but the are probably stressed and worried generally - not just about you. I remember being like this and really the eldest was the easiest. Its human nature. Have you tried to talk calmly to them when everything is cool?
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I'm just guessing, but it's probably because they both did some really stupid things when they were your age, and they don't want you to do the same things.But they'll never admit it.
as you're the oldest, that's 1 of the reasons why they always nag at you.
they want you to be the good example for your younger brother/sister.
If you don't think you're doing anything wrong that cause them to nag constantly, why not talk to your parents?
Tell them how you feel about it, ask them what they expect from you & what you think about it.
Have a sit down and a chat with them, be open to them, and say you want to do the right thing, but constant being told off is in a way affecting your confidence and growth (mentally,emotionally). Ask them, can you please change a way to tell me things if you think i done it wrong? rather than nagging me all the time? I will be much appreciated if you could just tell me what you want me to do, in a more friendly way.
Make sure you talk in a calm tune, not angry or anything like that, let them know you are just trying to make things better in the house.
Good luck
Like I always tell my kids...if you don't want to be nagged, do what I ask you the first time!
Unless your parents are completely unreasonable, and I know these parents do actually exist, then you probably need to look at your own actions before asking what is wrong with them...what is wrong with them is that they have high expectations of you...they know you can do better, and they want to prepare you for an adult life.
I have the same sort of opinion..my daughter is the oldest and most wise, so I expect her to lead a good example.
Im the oldest in my family too. lol
I know exactly how you feel.
My guess is its because you are the oldest and supposed to be an example to your siblings. Im 29 now and i now have a great relationship with my parents.
My advice, keep your head down and dont answer back, i know its hard but believe me it will get better..
Good luckxx
Oh and remember they are always right, even when theyre not.
My mom nags because of the fact now that each and all the youngsters have moved out, gotten married, and function babies of our very own, she misses having human beings around. And sometime your mum and dad will experience the comparable way!!!
are you doing what your being told to do? it would help if you were more specific about what they are nagging about. would also help if you first put yourself in their shoes and imagine having a child who acts just as you do. would you nag to straighten them up? how would you deal with yourself?
we all go through what your going through and a lot of times it takes for you to grow up and make your way into the world before your able to understand or even appreciate what your parents are trying to do for you.
what i was in highschool my father wouldnt let me do anything. i couldnt date, couldnt go to sleep overs, i even went to the prom by myself. i used to think my father was so mean but now i see he saved me from the fate of my friends who has kids real young. now that im older, me and my father are the best of friends.
Yup, sure thing....I'm the oldest also,23, and get bitched at all the time...I honestly think my mom gets really really bored and tries to pick at things. I think she just needs to get a job, bitching and nagging full time doesn't pay. Probably time to move out.
They shouldn't do this but the are probably stressed and worried generally - not just about you. I remember being like this and really the eldest was the easiest. Its human nature. Have you tried to talk calmly to them when everything is cool?
Trust me, i get the nag treatment too, and i'm 25 and moved away already.
It wont stop :P, just remember that they do it because they love you more than anything.
i no im the oldest to and my parents never seem to stop its so annoying lol